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31

May

Who is responsible for my thoughts and feelings?

Posted in Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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Wow, not feeling so fabulous right now - I was about an hour ago and I know I will be again any moment.  It only takes a decision to change our state of emotion.  We all have this amazing gift, we hold the remote control to how we think, feel and can change it if we want something different.  Just choose to cast your mind back to a time when you felt happier, free-er, when you laughed so hard tears appeared – or a time you felt completely calm and at peace.  Go back there now, through your own eyes, see what you saw, feel what you felt and really feel those feelings again now.  So I choose to feel happier and more fabulous.

I don’t know if you do this too – but I sometimes I slip up and I forget who I can share my good new with and those it’s best not to share with.

I have had some great successes with my business lately and my daughters are happy.  I am so excited for our futures.  I chose to speak to a close relative today and share my truth with her but unfortunately I slipped up.  I know better than to do this.  You see all my life I have been seeking approval from this person and many years ago, I realised that their approval was not as important as my own self approval and self-worth.   Isn’t it interesting how we unintentionally put our head into the ‘lions mouth’ over and over – just trusting and hoping for a different response?  Have you done this too?

Some people don’t want to see you progress because they are fearful that you will fail.  Sometimes, they don’t want you to progress so the dynamics of the relationship may change.  Sometimes, they are jealous of your progress or they realise just how their thinking ‘small’ has held them back from ‘being’ or having what they have always wanted.  In my case I think that this person wants great things for me and yet the ‘script’ that she lives her life by has makes her fearful, unable to be empathetic or joyful of my journey.

An innocent trigger can provoke these often unconscious responses from others.  It is down to me to decide how I react to this response.  I am responsible for my thoughts and feelings.  I can choose to feel let down and hurt or I can choose to let it go and give myself all the approval I desire.  I can look at my success journal and remind myself of how far I’ve come.  Isn’t it fantastic that we can give ourselves the permission to feel fabulous and shake off the negative comments/vibes if we wish to!

Wonderful, that’s me feeling better already! :)

If you’d like some support dealing with your feelings around your family or friends, please message me or go to my website for more information www.daringdamsels.com

Tagged approval, choice, emotions, family, friends, opportunities, responsibility, self worth, sharing, success journal, supporting and championing | Comments (0)

19

Nov

Coaching makes change happen quicker!

Posted in Personal Development.
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I’ve been on a new journey since my last blog – adding to my existing NLP tools – I’ve now become a Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Hypnosis!

It’s been an exciting journey with new experiences, new destinations and plenty of revelations and laughs along the way.  Being a life coach means being equipped to help my clients find the right path for them.  Facilitating the changes they choose to make.  NLP, TLT™ and Hypnosis are wonderful set of techniques – or tools for my ‘coaching tool bag’!

I guess prior to 2004, I had so many limiting beliefs, so much ‘stuff’ was holding me back – I didn’t know what to do for the best, I felt truly ‘stuck’ in life… it felt like I had no options, hadn’t a clue what to do to push forward.  During that dark time one of my best friends Helen, told me about an interview she’d heard on LBC radio station.  A guy called Andy Harrington had been speaking about ‘creating the life you desire’ and she’d chosen to go to an event called Fire Your Desire – similar to Antony Robbins UPW.  I was so excited to hear how well it had gone for her and how she had had some huge emotional shifts and had made some positive decisions about how she was going to live the rest of her life.  I was excited for her and felt compelled to go on the next event for myself!  I had no idea what coaching or NLP was at that stage, they weren’t words in my world.

On the 3 day FYD in London we (200 people) all worked on our own ‘stuff’, with Andy guiding us through each day and really playing hard ball with our resistance at times.  We all chose to walk a 25 feet fire walk – which was an awesome experience – and showed as all how we could survive stretching our ‘comfort zones’ and make a choice to live a bit more on the outside – in our ‘adventure zones’.  Many of the techniques were used that long weekend were NLP and Coaching… wow… it began to wet my desire. 

From that moment, my world expanded.  I began to choose what I did, and began looking at the world through a different pair of eyes.  I can’t say that by going on a 3 day workshop I was completely changed or that I made better decisions generally, but I did choose to learn from the feedback of those decisions and not repeat them! :)   I also learned that you need to take responsibility for what you have in your life – you have attracted all you have by the thoughts you have.  By one or two things changing… it was like the domino effect… other things began to shift.  Sometimes I would shock myself by the way I reacted to something said or experienced – I would realise I’d handled it in a completely new way – and give myself a metaphorical pat on the back! :)  It also helped me to have a friend who was also on this journey of personal development, someone who encouraged me to be positive, make choices and take responsibility for those choices – good or bad – she was my coach.

 Life isn’t always easy, but that doesn’t mean we should lie down and take it… we need to change our strategies for success and push through the pain barrier.  It’s so worth it.

So now in 2009, I am now able to work with clients on a one to one basis (workshops coming in the new year) helping them to ‘un-stick’ themselves, helping them to design the life they would really like to have, breaking down the invisible barriers of thought that have kept them down or prevented them from having what they really want.  Supporting and championing them, listening to them carefully and then asking the questions they have not asked themselves (or have not wanted to answer before).  Sometimes, we keep doing the same things, getting the same results and think we don’t know how to do things differently.  Coaching speeds the process up, releases you from the cage you’re trapped in…

This is an exciting time – what would you like from 2010?  It’s not far away now… if you are wanting more from life, or have a goal you want to achieve but could do with someone to encourage you – believe in you – contact me.  If you have a negative voice in your head telling you ‘I can’t do it’ or words to that effect – contact me, we can change that voice for something far more empowering! :)

Tagged Antony Robbins, Coaching, comfort zone, encourage, living, NLP, supporting and championing | Comments (0)
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