I hope you’ve been having a fabulous week! I’ve been reflecting on compliments this week after I was stopped in a supermarket by a lady who wanted to tell me she loved my dress! I’d share some thoughts with you, if that’s ok?
How do you react when you are given a compliment?
What is a compliment? If it’s from a friend or loved one then it comes from a place of kindness – intended from one heart to another. It is a gift. It’s something someone feels or observes which sometimes you can’t see for yourself. You know how good it feels to give a compliment don’t you? I could tell the lady who spoke to me felt great for having the courage to come up to me to give me this gift of a compliment.
So how do you react when someone tells you, you’ve done a good job? Or if they say they like what you’re wearing? Do you thank them with a smile and accept this gift, allowing it to fill you with gratitude that warms your heart. Or do you feel the need to justify saying how cheap the outfit is or that play the compliment and yourself down?
If a compliment is a gift, have you ever wondered how might this make the compliment giver feel? Could it feel like a rejection? Does it leave them and you both feeling a bit empty? Maybe if the compliments are from a loved one, eventually they may stop coming altogether – how sad for both!
I find it useful to just be more aware of what’s going on. To be more conscious when a compliment comes my way… I’ve adopted over time the habit of saying ‘thank you’ and meaning it. I don’t justify, I’m just grateful. And it feels soooooo good! I can see the compliment giver feels great to have given the compliment and it’s a win win all round! How lovely!!!! I was so touched by the lady in the supermarket, how kind of her!
So next time someone says they like your handbag or compliments you on a good job done, what will you say?
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Quote for the day: “A compliment is verbal sunshine” Robert Orben
Wishing you compliments galore!
Ali xx
Feminine Self Esteem Mentor