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31

Dec

My Reflective Review of 2011

Posted in Articles, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, Setting up a business.
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Like me, you’ll be reviewing your achievements of 2011.  It’s so important to look back at them, revisit and enjoy the memories, to celebrate them and to take the learnings of the year.  What are you most proud of, what’s the icing on the top of the cake for you?  What could you have done differently?  What have you gained?  What or who have you let go of?  What was your biggest learning about yourself?  Who were the key players this year who made a significant impact on you?

As I reflect back I remember that by the end of 2010 was beginning to feel uneasy.  I was continuing to work hard and yet the results were not showing up in my business fast enough.  I had some full workshops and 1:1 clients although I wondered if I needed to find a ‘proper’ job (perhaps return to my recruitment industry roots) and yet I really didn’t want to.  My calling to serve women, to support them in their greatness was so strong.  I knew that I had to keep focused, not allow fear to take over take what I am here to do.

I have invested so much in my own learning since 2004 with mentors, coaches, seminars, conferences, bootcamps as well as books, audios and training dvds.  What was slowing me down was that some of what I’d learned conflicted greatly with my own authenticity and it was on my mind so much of the time.  My thoughts were affecting my progress.  Have you ever felt that?  It was like pushing away from the side of the swimming pool as I decided to break away from what did not fit with my own values and to step further into my own truth.  Choosing to love and let go of the people who I was not in alignment with and instead be true to myself, honour my clients authentically. This move felt bold, empowering yet scary at the same time!  Having said this, I was so grateful for all the learnings and experience as it supported me to gain clarity on my own values, my purpose, who my clients are and how I can honour and support them to step into their greatness.  Does this resonate with you?

It was time to step up big and take the empowering practices that I’d learned and integrate them in with my intentions!  One of my dreams for some years was to set up a self development group for women and I decided to stop procrastinating and take a giant leap out of my comfort zone.  At the beginning of March, I launched a self development group for women in High Wycombe called Fab Friends Network.  Some wonderful women joined my membership group and began making great changes in their lives.  I was asked to appear on another local radio station and many speaking bookings came flowing my way.  Creating videos raised my visibility and pushed me further out of my comfort zone.  More clients connected with me – my authentic self, and knew I could support them to get great results.  I chose not to become distracted from my path and launched a VIP Group for 5 women in September, who I work with at a higher level, this group is called the Butterfly Circle and we meet each month for a day of learning, sharing and mentoring.   And a second Fab Friends Network group was launched in Basingstoke, Hampshire in October.  It was very exciting to have two new websites built www.alisoleil.com and www.fabfriendsnetwork.com.  The year unfolded beautifully with happiness, integrity and life lessons of trusting, surrendering, self belief and focus.

My clients have inspired and delighted me with their transformations, decisions, dreams and support. They have made such tremendous progress, I feel privileged to work with every single beautiful soul.  I’ve also met some hugely inspiring women mentors this year who have taught me so much and guided me to make authentic decisions in my business – and life.  I’ve been fortunate to attend some eye and heart opening workshops and talks in London with inspiring speakers such as Byron Katie, Sonia Choquette and Dr Michael Beckwith.   I also met my partner Andrew who has been a very important person in my life this year.  He has been so fantastic at loving me whilst allowing me to focus on my business.  Supporting and listening to me when I’ve been unsure of my challenging leaps, reassuring me and putting up with me when I’ve been a bit stressy!  Both my daughters have supported me at home and in my business, Becky has attended every Fab Friends meeting this year – which has been so helpful to me and a great learning for her!

It certainly has been a year of  huge leaps of faith, some big shifts in my thinking and most of all walking my talk.

I’ve learned that it’s so important to surround myself with a supportive peer group who encourage me to be the best I can be – to be authentic, to believe in myself, to ask for help, not to compare myself with others, keep on my path and not be persuaded off it or distracted by the ‘rocks’ in the road.  And above all to feel happy :)   Hanging in there, keeping motivated – believing in myself and my ‘gifts’ has really changed my circumstances enormously, the snowball is rolling and I’m in such a different place to where I began the year.  I start 2012 full of excitement and can’t wait to allow it all to unfold, surprise and delight me.

I would love to hear about your year, what you’ve faced and overcome.  What learnings you’ve taken and of the joys and delights that have been the icing on the cake for you!  And if you’d like some support to make your 2012 your best year ever, send me an email ali@alisoleil.com and we can have an informal chat to see how we can work together and make that happen, it will be my privilege.

Have a great New Year!

Love and celebrations

Ali xxx

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28

Dec

Let’s Set Your 2012 Intentions!

Posted in Articles, Christmas, Goal Setting, gratitude, happiness, Perfect Days, Personal Development.
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Here we are almost at the start of 2012 – the beginning of a new year of success, adventure and possibility!

Many people begin to plan in January for their year ahead – holidays, new car, new home and house extensions and I wonder how many people give the same amount of time to planning their life?

Looking at glossy holiday brochures is wonderful, you can escape the cold and rain and imagine being on a beach for a week or two,  feeling free and relaxed but I wonder if you ever spend time the same amount of time or more imagining your life and really planning what you want to achieve, how you want to grow as a person.   Life is a journey – do you want to be the driver or the passenger?  Do you want to choose an interesting, scenic and exciting route or leave it to chance and have a snooze in the back?

Often we make short term plans – fun interruptions in our lives; we dot in the holidays and the things that give us excitement or something to look forward to – but how would it be if we made a decision to plan a bit further ahead?  Rather than life developing and us existing, we can choose to make things happen the way we design them instead of leaving it all up to chance?

This is your life.  You want the best for your family and friends – why not for yourself?

How to set your Intentions and Personal Promises for 2012

1st Step

Choose a time when you are feeling peaceful, relaxed.  Free of interruption.  Get yourself in a positive state, open to possibilities.  Write a list of things of what you are proud to have achieved during 2011.  List them down and quietly reflect on them.  Feel the feelings of achievement bubbling up and allow yourself to celebrate every success, big or small!

2nd Step

What did you do during 2011 that was the ‘icing on the cake?’  Make a list.  What gave you your greatest sense of joy?  Who was there?  What happened?  How did it make you feel?  What photographs do you treasure of those moments?  Go and have a look at them… and relive the feelings, sounds and sights…

3rd Step

Think about the areas in your life that are important – list them down eg career, environment, personal development, fun & recreation, relationship with friends/family, significant other, spirituality etc.  Consider where you are with each right now, today.  Give each one a score out of 10, with 1 being low and 10 being high.  How would you score your satisfaction with each area?

4th Step

Think about how you would like to change each area – what would make it a 10?  What would ‘10’ be like for you?  How would it feel?  Close your eyes if it helps… imagine, dream… design… paint a picture in your imagination of how you’re choose to change things.  Imagine if Aladdin’s genie gave you 3 wishes… how would you use them to change your life?  What if you had more than 3 wishes, how would you use them?  Drift into your imagination, what can you hear, what can you smell, taste?  Who is there?  What are they doing?  How bright is the picture?  Turn up the colour… adjust the volume so it’s right.  What difference would it make to your life?  How would it affect your relationships?

5th Step

Put the list in an order of priority.  Which area of your life needs action most urgently?  When would you like to have this achieved by?  Set dates for the other areas, being realistic – but being true to you.

6th Step

What is the first step to achieving your intentions and personal promises?  Who can help you?  What resources do you need?  Where can you get these?  What additional learning do you need?  Where can you find out about this?  When are you going to begin?  How important is this intention?

7th Step

Why are you doing this?  What is motivating you? If you do not have a big enough reason ‘why,’ you will find yourself falling off the wagon… like many new year resolutions people make, it will be overlooked and your life will be left to chance once more.  How do you want to feel when you look back in 10 years and remember the dreams you once had, that you didn’t ‘bother’ to achieve?  Decide how important this is to you, your family – choose to make it a priority in your life.

8th Step

Who will you share your intentions with?  Be careful here.  I have found that if we are too free with our excitement about how we’re designing our lives – others do not always support us and try to prick our bubble.  Sometimes, friends and family like life to be the way it is and that’s that.  They do not want anything to change.  It can be that they do not want to see us start something and then fail.  If they love us they will want to protect us.  Others may think it’s best for us to take a more conventional route or do things the way they did.  Each person is a unique individual with their own set of life situations and challenges.  If we listen to and take on board negative comments of others, we’re bound to struggle to achieve our intentions.  We must have belief in ourselves, determination and adopt a success strategy that works for us.  We must be clear about why we’re doing this and what the outcome will be.  Share your intentions with people who will support you, encourage you and be inspired by you.  Keep focusing on the ‘why’ and the positive outcome.  Deciding to have a coach can be crucial to your success – a coach will keep you on track, will believe in you and will encourage you to dig deep to find the solutions to your action steps.  It is a powerful union.

9th Step

What will you do to remind yourself daily of your intentions and your commitment to yourself?  Some clients of mine choose to write themselves a statement which they keep in their wallet or handbag which they look at each day.  It could be something such as:

“It is 3rd January 2013 and I am sitting on my porch of my dream French house with my loving partner, watching the sun setting over the mountains.  We are sipping champagne and planning our next holiday together.  We feel healthy, safe and secure.  I live in abundance of all good things and my life is perfect.”

It is important that this statement is personal, set in the future with a date and conjures up the feeling you will have once you are living the life you’ve designed.

Some of my clients choose to design a ‘dream board’ which is board covered with cut out pictures of how their life is going to be, what they will have, what they will be doing or what’s important to them.  Also words that inspire them to dream big and take action.  They will look at the board every morning and every night – looking at the pictures and choose to imagine the feelings of having those things now.  This is an incredibly powerful way of speeding up the intention process – ideas will come to you during the night as your mind continues to dream while you’re asleep – you will wake up often with new ideas of how you will make this intention your reality.

10th Step

Each month, ideally on the first week day or weekend look at your intention list.  Look at what you’ve achieved.  Praise yourself and celebrate.  Feel good about how you’ve moved forward.  The changes you can see now, the way this makes you feel.  How your positive actions are affecting your state of mind.  Decided what the next step will be to getting to your intention.  What you need to do, who you need to speak to and put a date on the action – when will this be achieved by?

 

Intention/Personal Promise Summary

Okay, so imagine… In ten years time, how would you like to be living?  If you were to look back at this decade what would you like to be able to say you’d achieved, ticked off your dream list or experienced?   You’ll be ten years older… go on, you can do the maths.  I heard something recently that really got me thinking – he said, imagine you’re about to meet your maker – you’re standing at the gates of heaven and the angel says to you “Wow, I’ve heard about the Great Wall of China, the pyramids of Egypt, Hanging Gardens of Babylon, Stonehenge, Grand Canyon! Wow what are they like?” and you turn to him and say “Oh I don’t know, I never went there… but I can tell you what happened on EastEnders last week!”

Let’s make 2012 not just a New Year but a Fantastic New Year!  A year where you make some positive shifts, feel fulfilled, and achieve the success (whatever that means to you) that you’ve always wanted.

I will have only one new opening for a new one to one mentoring/coaching client in January 2012l  Are you feeling ready to take some massive action and make 2012 your BEST year so far?  Send me an email to ali@alisoleil.com and let’s have an informal chat about how you can have your best year yet!

Wishing you a very very Happy New Year!

Love and smiles

Ali xxx

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24

Oct

Loving My Clients!

Posted in gratitude, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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I’ve just received a notification from LinkedIn, informing me that someone has left me a recommendation on my profile. Reading it brought tears to my eyes.   Every client I work with is so important to me, so special.   And to receive these words touches my soul.  If you know you’re here for something great, and you’re still trying to find what that is, message me and lets see how I can support you too. 

“I can only describe Ali as my own, very special guardian angel. She has helped me to feel great about being “me” and not to be afraid to celebrate my femininity. I always felt safe during my sessions with Ali and knew that she genuinely wanted to help me find me and help me on my way to doing something great on my journey through life. Anyone wanting to truly find themselves and make their heart sing can trust Ali to get them there!”

Service Category: Feminine Life Coach
Top Qualities: Great Results, Expert, High Integrity

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28

Feb

A Client Shares Her Story

Posted in Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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May I share an email which I received with you?  It’s from an inspiring lady in New Zealand called Sheryl who signed up for the 7 Fed Up to Fabulous tips on this website and found the weekly newsletter tips to be a real lifeline… she gained great value from her mentoring call… this is her story.  (Sheryl’s given her permission for me to share with you.)

Send me an email to arrange an informal chat about how my mentoring could support you to step up and realise your potential – I’d love to hear from you ali@daringdamsels.com

 Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor   

Fab Friends Network www.fabfriendsnetwork.co.uk   Daring Damsels www.daringdamsels.com    Facebook  www.facebook.com/DaringDamsels

Hi Ali

How can I tell you how much your call to me meant? We had such trouble with the time zones but managed it finally with your mathematical brain, thanks for loaning it to me :)

When I first saw the ad for Daring Damsels I was at a really low point in my life, with not enough income, a troubled relationship with my daughter, and not enough to do. I had moved to this city a year & a half earlier, and still hadn’t formed significant relationships, which bothered me a lot. 

Especially being a people person. I had got to the point of either checking out finally from my lot, or doing something about it. That’s when I looked up your website and subscribed to your newsletters. 

I have to say they were very encouraging, a string to hold on to… a lifeline if you will. I loved the positive affirmations video and shared the information on Facebook, hoping it would encourage others as it had done me.

As I continued to read I thought a lot about who I am and what I want out of life. For me it’s to have significant bountiful relationships with the people in my life. I want to nurture and grow those relationships, while being true to who I am, and what I believe in.

I started to set some boundaries in my life, and it’s changed a whole lot of things. I lost people along the way who didn’t ‘get me’, and the places I go and people I see are different now. I only hang out with the people I like mostly hehe, family are a no choice zone sometimes. 

I only compromise sometimes because it’s easier for me than for them. I’m a giving person so I like to give of myself and my skills and abilities where I’m able. As long as I don’t deny myself doing it.

When we got to the mentoring stage via Skype, I had come to that place, and for you to affirm me in the way you did, really helped. I was still a little unsure of whether I was headed in the right direction. Now I KNOW I am, and am going to make this MY TIME TO SHINE. 

Life is not a rehearsal, you reminded me of that. We only get one go at it. I’m still learning and hope to continue to do so, as I mature like a delicious blue cheese…just gets better with age.

I will continue to pass on what I’ve learned Ali; once again thank you so much for sharing your time and skills with me.

With much love and appreciation

Sheryl

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