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30

Nov

YOU Are Enough

Posted in Life Challenges, Setting up a business.
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When I got onto the plane to return home last week from Cyprus, it crossed my mind that I had no idea how a plane really flies – I only have a rough idea.

To get home, I buy my ticket, get onto the plane, but I don’t have to know the ins and outs of aviation, I don’t have to do all the research – all I have to do, is show up, trust and sit back.

Where are you delaying your flight?

What were your burning ambitions at the beginning of the year?  Those things you wanted to achieve become or do? How did you get on with those? If you’ve manifested those things – well done! And if you’ve still to make them happen – ask yourself “what’s been stopping me?”

Have you noticed, sometimes in life, we seem to put on our own breaks don’t we? We seem to be waiting for something to happen. Sometimes we feel we still need to know or learn something before we can steam ahead. Many of us feel the need to research just a little more, do another course, read another book, plan just a bit further – or worse talk ourselves out of what we wanted and put the dream on the back burner.

Obviously, we can’t just fly the plane until we’ve learned and passed our test etc – but if we have a desire to create something for ourselves, we need to decide what that is – and focus on solutions to making it happen – now. Trust and take a leap of faith in ourselves.

And I want you to know, that YOU are ENOUGH now, it’s time. Time to just go for it and make the end of the year Sparkle!

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13

Nov

How’s Your Work / Life Balance?

Posted in Life Challenges, Perfect Days, Setting up a business.
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When was the last time you stopped to ‘smell the roses’?  For many of us we’re so busy being busy, juggling roles of mum, wife, sister, daughter, entrepreneur, business worker, not to mention being the food shopper, cleaner, cook, taxi driver, nurse…  For those of us with a business, often we created this so we’d be able to choose the hours we work around the various roles we play – and sometimes this doesn’t seem to happen does it? 

Over the last few months I’ve realised the importance of building my business around my time.  So that my business – isn’t busi-ness but productive and fun!  When was the last time you considered how many hours you find yourself working – and which of those hours completely productive?  Would you like more time for you to be doing the things you love?

If this resonates with you, let me share how you could enjoy more time next year!

  • Block out your 2013 holidays on a planner as you may have when were employed – so these are set – and non negotiable.
  • Choose how many hours you wish to work each week – and block out your time for ‘doing what you love’ time.
  • Use online calendar such as google’s calendar – it’s free, easy and you can colour code the various activities – such as appointments as well as ‘me time’.  This can sync automatically to your android mobile phone. You can even share it with others.
  • Consider finding a Virtual Assistant who could complete some of the tasks you don’t enjoy and waste time trying to figure out!

If you’re like me, you’ll value time and freedom too – by honouring these values, it gives me time to re-charge so that I can serve my clients even more.  And you already know – I love my clients!

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13

Dec

Stop The Clocks, It’s Time To ‘Be’ – Join Me?

Posted in Goal Setting, gratitude, happiness, Perfect Days, Uncategorized.
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November was a very busy month for me, how about you?  Sometimes when we realise that we’ve been working too hard, it’s too late – we’re already depleted of energy, feeling drained.   It’s like the red warning light on the fuel gauge has been on for too long in your car and you know you’re running on vapours.  The offer of a long weekend in the South of France was a blessing although I wondered if I really had time to be away.  Does that sound too familiar?   There are always reasons not to do go away – lack of time, money, work (except I love what I do!) and all the other things to ‘do’, not to mention the Christmas shopping….  One of my friends booked her ticket to stay with our friend Julia and asked when I was going to book mine…. mmm…. a gentle reminder, it’s time.

As women, traditionally we tend to put our own needs last and a gentle reminder is welcome when we forget.   So I booked my ticket a return flight to the South of France for £39!  Bargain!   And at the start of December, my coaching friend Hilary and I set off to meet our friend Julia who owns a Chateau Ventenac and our long weekend began.  We left the cold, rain and drizzle at Luton Airport for the sunnier, more carefree climes of Beziers Airport one hour and 20 minutes away!

Isn’t it amazing how we can be running at 100 miles an hour and have a gazillion things to ‘do’ urgently and yet when the distance separates us from the ‘stuff’ to do, we can feel distance from the stresses?  Maybe that’s just me?   I could literally feel the pressures and stresses melt off me, and fall away.  I began to relax, slow down, and went from ‘doing’ to ‘being’ very quickly.  Sitting on Julia’s terrace without a coat in December, gazing across the Canal du Midi, across the miles and miles of vineyards and nestling on the horizon the Pyrannes mountains sat amongst the fluffy clouds.  It was purrrrrfect!  I couldn’t have felt more at home, more relaxed and more at peace… heaven.

When was the last time you really stopped what you were doing and took some ‘me time’?  Stopped what you were doing and went somewhere different?  Even though you felt under pressure, chose to chill out?  Being with my two good friends gave me the chance to unwind, catch up on their news and share some of my news too.  We laughed, dreamed, wandered, contributed, sat by a crackling open fire and even watched X Factor with a glass of something red and giggly!

Since being back, I’ve been more productive, had more fun, slept better and it feels like I’ve been on a long holiday!  It is truly wonderful.  So a few days out really can make a huge difference… When are you going to give yourself some time out?  Do it!  Go on!   Whilst I was at Chateau Ventenac I reflected on 2011 and made some decisions about 2012.  Have you begun considering what you’d like to achieve in 2012?  Exciting isn’t it?

Whilst I was away, I really wished I could share the gorgeous landscape, the beautiful chateau and the time out with my wonderful clients, I know that you too could do with some time to recharge and reflect.  So, I mentioned this to Julia who runs her Chateau as a retreat/workshop business, if I could book a week in October 2012 – and guess what?  It’s happening!  I can’t wait to share more about this with you and I’ll be posting some information about it on this website soon, so keep checking back! :)  It would be great to share this time with you, making some life transformations and relaxing too.  If you’d like to see more of Chateau Ventenac please stop by Julia’s website http://www.chateauventenac.com.

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21

Nov

Opportunity Knocks – Will You Let It In?

Posted in Goal Setting, happiness, Life Challenges, Networking, Personal Development, self esteem.
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When opportunity knocks on your door – what happens for you?

If it’s something you’ve been wanting, you may feel an urge to “woohoo!” I know I do!

But what if it’s an opportunity that feels so fantastic it feels beyond your reach?  What happens then?  When you feel the stretch, do you feel butterflies stirring in your stomach?  The dreaded inner gremlin telling you, you don’t deserve?  A sense of mixed emotion like a tug of war – of wanting but not wanting to fail?   To look stupid or to make a mistake?

Sometimes that old feeling of not feeling quite good enough, or not deserving enough can creep into your thinking and you have to stop in your tracks and ask yourself what is really going on.  Do you do that too?  Sometimes it maybe money; the opportunity is there but money isn’t?  You attract what you focus on – not having enough, means you stay in lack.  When you step up and show up – you grow.  When you embrace opportunity, more opportunities show up and this often includes the money you desire and so on.  ”If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.”

What is fear anyway?  A negative emotion, False Evidence Appearing Real?  How real is it?  What I know is, that often it skips along in our minds with the inner gremlin.  It keeps you small, keeps you shrinking, fitting in, and dabbling around the edges of your greatness.

You are here to Shine, to Stand Out, Embrace Life, Make a Difference and Grow!  

Does it make you shut out the opportunity?  Or welcome it with open arms?

So, who would you or I be without fear?  How much more could you achieve? How much more could you become?  Enjoy?  Share?  What could taking the the big leap mean to you?  What if you didn’t fail but spectacularly rose to the top?  When we focus on what we want – or what we don’t want, we get it – so when opportunity strikes, grab it, go for it, celebrate it and GROW!

2011 has been a massive year of growth personally for me, how about you?   This year, I’ve been leaping out of my comfort zone, stepping up and achieving so many of my own desires and dreams.  I’ve also had my fair share of knock backs too and I’ve got back up again and brushed myself down. Those lessons have been hugely valuable for me, lessons to do things differently so I’ll get different results next time. Now, when I feel the butterflies of fear creeping in when I’m presented with an opportunity, I remind myself this is just excitement and go for it!  There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.   You’re worth it, right?  Make this lifetime the BEST it can be! :)  Why wouldn’t you?

Love and sunshine

Ali xx

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11

Oct

An Update!

Posted in Perfect Days, Personal Development.
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I’ve a quick update to share with you.

I remember that for many, many years, I found myself feeling I was in the ‘wrong’ job.  One friend even described me as a pinball machine!  Always trying new things and always seeking something that make my heart sing.  Have you ever felt like that?  Something always told me that I was happiest when I was working with women, empowering them to step up and go for it (I spent years in the recruitment industry)!

Now, I know as a womens life coach and mentor, nothing gives me a greater feeling than witnessing my clients own transformations; it’s just the best feeling and I feel so privilaged to work with my clients.  If you’re still struggling to find your ‘thing’ let me know, I maybe able to support you with that!

As with all things creative, my business is organic, it’s taking it’s own shape.  I want to let you know that I’ve chosen to drop the Daring Damsels branding and use my own name.  So my website will reflect this soon!  And Fab Friends Network will have it’s own unique site – and I can’t wait to share that with you!  Both will be launched very soon.

My vision a few years ago was to create a worldwide supportive network for women and I’m so excited that new Fab Friends Network groups will be opening early next year around the UK – reaching more ladies who want to feel more fabulous, who want more from life, who are ready to ignite their passions and belong to a peer group of supportive women who will encourage them to step up and go for it!

As you know, High Wycombe Fab Friends group, is soon to have a sister group Basingstoke Fab Friends, based in Sherfield on Loddon which launches this week – on Thursday 13th in the evening!  If your name isn’t on the guest list and would like to come along, there are still a few free places – just email me. Find more information at www.fabfriendsnetwork.com

Have you been to a Fab Friends meeting?  Watch this 2 minute video to see what 3 fabulous ladies said last week as they left the High Wycombe group they did make me giggle!

So that’s all for now, I just wanted to keep you in the loop!

Have a great week and I hope to speak with you soon.

Do send me an email or call me on 07702 591288 if you’d like more information or if I can support you on your life journey.

Wishing you happiness

Ali xx

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11

Apr

What Are You Grateful For Which Is Yet To Come?

Posted in Goal Setting, gratitude, happiness, Perfect Days, Personal Development, self esteem.
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Wow, what a great response to the last blog about feeling grateful.  It’s always wonderful to get feedback, I feel so grateful.  I received messages of gratitude for family, new jobs, good health, pay rise and also for these messages.

I was given a Gratitude Journal last year by my mentor.  It is a merchandise product from The Secret and I’ve found writing in it a wonderful experience.  I write what I am grateful for now and on the opposite page there is space for writing what I am grateful for in the future – and write from my heart as if I already have/experience it. 

It can feel strange saying “I am so grateful for the beautiful beach house which overlooks the sea” when I do not already have it – the amazing thing is, I’ve found it crystallises my dreams, and I go with the flow of what I’m feeling in that moment.  It doesn’t matter if I repeat over and over the same feelings of gratitude because as you know, where focus goes, energy flows – ie, you get what you focus on!  And it feels FABULOUS!

Go on, try it and let me know how that feels for you.  Focus and celebrate your future now.  Keep a Gratitude Journal and find some time each day (or every few days) – you’ll be amazed at the results you are getting – and the feelings it creates inside of you!

Quote of the day:  “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” Brian Tracy

News Flash: I have space for just 2 new clients this month (Open to ladies in the UK and overseas – via Skype). 

Message me now if you feel ready to step up and find out more about getting the life you know you deserve – be quick, these places will be filled quickly!  

Wishing you so much happiness

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

Fab Friends Network – www.fabfriendsnetwork.co.uk   Daring Damsels – www.daringdamsels.com  Facebook www.facebook.com/DaringDamsels

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07

Mar

Are you ready to step up? Here is my offer to you

Posted in Goal Setting, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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I was moved some years ago by a poem which I’d love to share with you.  You may be familiar with the words of Marianne Williamson, I’m sure if you’re like me then you won’t mind reading them again.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.  Your playing small does not serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”  

I wonder how these words affect you?  I know that the first time I read them I could see how I’d been ‘fitting’ in with everyone else and was keeping myself small so I didn’t stand out, didn’t want to risk criticism from others and lacked belief in myself – I didn’t want to be seen.  Do you do this too?  My self esteem was very low.  It cost me relationships with friends and partners, I didn’t think anyone would find me interesting or my opinions.  I felt I was a disappointment to my family, was happy to spend money on my children but not on myself,  didn’t like myself very much, didn’t feel safe and was always worrying about things.  And then good news -  it began to change!  I got some coaching and mentoring!

It was like the chains that were holding me a prisoner just dropped off and I was able to step into the light, regain my self esteem, discover who I really was and began to live my purpose to the full. 

Whilst I didn’t have the money, I knew I didn’t want to put my life on hold and if things stayed as they were, I’d never have the money.  I could see how much my flawed thought patterns and behaviours were costing me (and as a role model, future generations).  I knew that my happy future depended on getting some support.  I was ready to invest in myself so I borrowed some money and used my credit card.  It was the best thing I could have done to set myself free and to release the ‘real’ me again!

Having a coach to ‘hold my hand’, someone who asked me the difficult questions that I’d never asked myself, who supported and believed in me, my really accelerated my progress.  The results were tremendous!  I still have a coach and a mentor today who support me to accelerate in other areas of my life - coaching is super powerful!

Do you feel ready to step into the light too?  Have these blogs over the months been supporting you to make some changes which are creating a better life for you? 

If you feel that you would like to accelerate your progress, invest in yourself and work with me on a one to one basis then I have an offer for you!  This won’t be for everyone, but if your heart is telling you this is your time, then I have only 5 spaces to take on new clients currently.  I would love to have an informal chat with you if you feel ready to shine.

Most clients choose book a series of 6 x 50 minutes weekly sessions with me as this is more effective than booking one off sessions.  Your investment in 6 sessions is £497.  However, as you are one of my loyal Damsels, I am offering you the opportunity of applying for one of these 5 places with a massive £100 off the usual price bringing this amazing offer to you at £397!!!!   My mentor thinks I’ve lost the plot as my prices will be going up in the near future, and yet I feel in my heart that I want to do this for you.  This blog will be seen many hundred ladies, many of whom have booked sessions with me in the past and who will want to snap up this bargain, so I urge you to be quick in replying.  Please email me with ‘Application for discount’ in the subject line and a short message and I’ll get back to you asap to arrange our informal, no obligation chat ali@daringdamsels.com.  This offer is only open to you for the next 7 days.

Let me know if you are ready to draw the line in the sand, to step up into the light to allow me the privilege of supporting you get your life ‘back’.

With love and happiness

Ali xx  Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

www.daringdamsels.com   www.fabfriendsnetwork.com   www.facebook.com/daringdamsels

What do some previous clients say about their coaching/mentoring experience with me?

“Ali’s wonderful warmth and generous spirit puts you immediately at ease. Her intuition and empathy combined with a fervent support of what makes each individual woman uniquely special leads to a coaching session that is uplifting and inspiring. Ali will not only make you realise what is great about you, but help you on a path towards realising your own unique potential.” Yiannik Bennett, Florida

“Ali immediately made me feel very comfortable and safe during our coaching session with her friendly and empathetic approach. I had been blocked for some time and was unsure how to progress forward. She skillfully changed tack when it became apparent that I was not going to respond predictably but still enabled me to feel in control at all times. Due to her spontaneous and skillful creativity, we ended up achieving far more than I would have dreamed possible. As a result of the session, I at last feel able to move forward again, helped in no small way by the strategies and exercises she has given me. I give Ali highest recommendation. Anyone who is seeking sensitive and skilled guidance in their business or personal lives would benefit greatly by seeking her help”. Laurelle Rond, England

“What is special about Ali’s coaching is her gentle and compassionate approach, along with her perceptive and intuitive insights. Through her support and her powerful questioning, I have been able to see more clearly and be more empowered. I would thoroughly recommend her to anyone who wants to make deep and significant changes in their lives. Thank you Ali for all your help!” Hilary Reeves, England

“Ali has a great manner about her. She is patient and easy to talk to and really helped me to think about my priorities and focus in life.”  Ros Kitson, England

“Ali is a wonderful, sensitive and compassionate coach and friend. She has helped me to get back in touch with my self worth and talents when I had lost sight of them, spending many years at home looking after my family. I now feel ready to move on to the next stage of my life and I am very grateful to Ali for helping me find the way.” Chris Iishin Horner, New Zealand

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