In a recent blog I suggested that we all have many great teachers in our lives, who unwittingly shape us. Have you identified some of yours?
Apart from lovely Winnie, other great teachers in my life include my amazing daughters Becky and Anna. They really light my life and make my heart sing with happiness.
I since they were born – with Bexx who will be 18 years in 3 days and Anna coming up for 17, I have had to learn much about patience, being in the moment, unconditional love, sacrifice, negotiation skills, time keeping and much more.
In recent years, I have been learning about detachment, learning not to judge, not to jump to conclusions, not to criticise, allowing them to take responsibility and letting them make their life decisions for themselves (with my guidance) and being ok with what they decide. It’s not always easy to know the right thing to do, after all we don’t get a manual do we? I certainly don’t get it right every time either, but I do my best for them.
I follow my intuition about what’s happening and keep all communication channels open. Sometimes as a parent I know I’ve wondered if I can cope with hearing what’s going on – sometimes it can shock me, but I came to the conclusion many years ago that I would rather know and support than not know. They are my girls and I love them whatever they get up to. Because of this I feel so blessed and filled with gratitude, to be a big part of both girl’s lives with my dual role of being Mama and also best friend.
I wonder what my life could have been like if I’d not had them, it’s unimaginable now. I’m heading towards a life without them being at home with me and that fills me with wonder. It’s another learning stage and I’m looking forward to it – for all of us.
Wishing you happiness and learnings.