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14

Mar

Where Is The Love?

Posted in happiness, Life Challenges, Parenting, Perfect Days, Personal Development, self esteem.
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It’s been a great day so far, lots of time to catch up on my business and also to connect with some special friends.  I hope you’re having a good day too!

Something keeps on being said in my head today – which is “Where is the love?” and it’s sung in Justin Timberlake’s voice! ;)   He sang a song with the Black Eyed Peas that has this as its title.  I thought I’d drop you a line and see if it resonates with you.

It ‘should’ all be so simple really, shouldn’t it?  We are love.  We give love.  We love to receive love.  And yet so many of us are pushing against the flow of love and feeling the resistance – which pushes us into a negative state.

When we feel fed up with our children, our partners, our friends, we can so quickly go from 0 – 60 in 5 seconds feeling anger or resentment building up inside of us.  When this happens “where is the love?”  And that’s it really.  Where does it go in that instance?

Listening to some fabulous friends today talking about their situations, I ventured to ask them the question “where is the love?”   It stopped them in their tracks.  If you could take a step away from the situation, take some deep breaths, choose to focus on feeling some love for that person – how could you handle a situation differently? 

How about next time your inner gremlin says something unkind – ask yourself the question “where is the love?” (with or without Justin’s voice!)

Quote of the day: “Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” Gary Zukav

Here it is! Sending you lots of love

Ali xx

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31

May

Who is responsible for my thoughts and feelings?

Posted in Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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Wow, not feeling so fabulous right now - I was about an hour ago and I know I will be again any moment.  It only takes a decision to change our state of emotion.  We all have this amazing gift, we hold the remote control to how we think, feel and can change it if we want something different.  Just choose to cast your mind back to a time when you felt happier, free-er, when you laughed so hard tears appeared – or a time you felt completely calm and at peace.  Go back there now, through your own eyes, see what you saw, feel what you felt and really feel those feelings again now.  So I choose to feel happier and more fabulous.

I don’t know if you do this too – but I sometimes I slip up and I forget who I can share my good new with and those it’s best not to share with.

I have had some great successes with my business lately and my daughters are happy.  I am so excited for our futures.  I chose to speak to a close relative today and share my truth with her but unfortunately I slipped up.  I know better than to do this.  You see all my life I have been seeking approval from this person and many years ago, I realised that their approval was not as important as my own self approval and self-worth.   Isn’t it interesting how we unintentionally put our head into the ‘lions mouth’ over and over – just trusting and hoping for a different response?  Have you done this too?

Some people don’t want to see you progress because they are fearful that you will fail.  Sometimes, they don’t want you to progress so the dynamics of the relationship may change.  Sometimes, they are jealous of your progress or they realise just how their thinking ‘small’ has held them back from ‘being’ or having what they have always wanted.  In my case I think that this person wants great things for me and yet the ‘script’ that she lives her life by has makes her fearful, unable to be empathetic or joyful of my journey.

An innocent trigger can provoke these often unconscious responses from others.  It is down to me to decide how I react to this response.  I am responsible for my thoughts and feelings.  I can choose to feel let down and hurt or I can choose to let it go and give myself all the approval I desire.  I can look at my success journal and remind myself of how far I’ve come.  Isn’t it fantastic that we can give ourselves the permission to feel fabulous and shake off the negative comments/vibes if we wish to!

Wonderful, that’s me feeling better already! :)

If you’d like some support dealing with your feelings around your family or friends, please message me or go to my website for more information www.daringdamsels.com

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