daring damsels – Ali Soleil

Feb

A Client Shares Her Story

Posted in Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.

May I share an email which I received with you? It’s from an inspiring lady in New Zealand called Sheryl who signed up for the 7 Fed Up to Fabulous tips on this website and found the weekly newsletter tips to be a real lifeline… she gained great value from her mentoring call… this is her story. (Sheryl’s given her permission for me to share with you.)

Send me an email to arrange an informal chat about how my mentoring could support you to step up and realise your potential – I’d love to hear from you ali@daringdamsels.com

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

Fab Friends Network www.fabfriendsnetwork.co.uk Daring Damsels www.daringdamsels.com Facebook www.facebook.com/DaringDamsels

Hi Ali

How can I tell you how much your call to me meant? We had such trouble with the time zones but managed it finally with your mathematical brain, thanks for loaning it to me

When I first saw the ad for Daring Damsels I was at a really low point in my life, with not enough income, a troubled relationship with my daughter, and not enough to do. I had moved to this city a year & a half earlier, and still hadn’t formed significant relationships, which bothered me a lot.

Especially being a people person. I had got to the point of either checking out finally from my lot, or doing something about it. That’s when I looked up your website and subscribed to your newsletters.

I have to say they were very encouraging, a string to hold on to… a lifeline if you will. I loved the positive affirmations video and shared the information on Facebook, hoping it would encourage others as it had done me.

As I continued to read I thought a lot about who I am and what I want out of life. For me it’s to have significant bountiful relationships with the people in my life. I want to nurture and grow those relationships, while being true to who I am, and what I believe in.

I started to set some boundaries in my life, and it’s changed a whole lot of things. I lost people along the way who didn’t ‘get me’, and the places I go and people I see are different now. I only hang out with the people I like mostly hehe, family are a no choice zone sometimes.

I only compromise sometimes because it’s easier for me than for them. I’m a giving person so I like to give of myself and my skills and abilities where I’m able. As long as I don’t deny myself doing it.

When we got to the mentoring stage via Skype, I had come to that place, and for you to affirm me in the way you did, really helped. I was still a little unsure of whether I was headed in the right direction. Now I KNOW I am, and am going to make this MY TIME TO SHINE.

Life is not a rehearsal, you reminded me of that. We only get one go at it. I’m still learning and hope to continue to do so, as I mature like a delicious blue cheese…just gets better with age.

I will continue to pass on what I’ve learned Ali; once again thank you so much for sharing your time and skills with me.

With much love and appreciation

Sheryl

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Feb

How Young Do You Feel?

Posted in gratitude, happiness.

If you didn’t know your biological age – how old would you say you are? Having chatted amongst my girlfriends recently we giggled as we shared our ‘heart’ ages… the age we’ve been for a long time on the inside. One lovely lady who is about 43 biological years old, said she’s felt for a long time that really she’s only ’30′ years old another said she feels like she is ’6′ years old inside and I said I’m really ’18′ years old.

Isn’t it funny how we can have two ages? What’s your ‘heart’ age? The lady who is ’30′ said that she’s happily felt a sense of responsibility since she was very young. The lady who said she’s ’6′ years old inside felt that she’s often confused by the world, daunted by the world – and I have to remember that my own daughters biologically are 17 and 18 years old and that I can’t join in with ALL that they do! Even if I feel like it!

It can be that a significant event has happened at a certain age, and inside we’ve stayed there whilst the external aging process has carried on.

Sometimes our ‘heart’ age says more about us than our biological age. And that is ok. Life is fun; it’s not mean to be all serious and hard work. Do what makes you happy! If we feel like we’re only ’6′ sometimes or even ’90′ it is ok to ask for help and support when it’s needed. We all need a bit of help sometimes. Reach out and be thankful for it.

Quote of the day

“Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.” Jim Fiebig

Wishing you bubbles and fairy dust

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

Fab Friends Network www.fabfriendsnetwork.co.uk Daring Damsels www.daringdamsels.com

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Dec

Are You Sensitive To Criticism?

Posted in gratitude, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.

I hope you’re finding yourself feeling a bit more aware of your response to compliments since the last blog on that subject. How about criticisms? It’s difficult to get through a life time without a lot of small, medium and large criticisms.

If someone says a throw away comment which feels like a criticism or an insult – how do you react to that? From my experience of coaching fabulous ladies, I find that most of us allow a criticism to cut to the core. It sits in our heads and we re-live the negative feelings forever more and yet a compliment just vaporises away as if it never happened. Isn’t that interesting?

By raising our awareness we can live more consciously and choose how we deal with compliments and criticisms. So when you feel criticised, it may sting, you may initially feel a negative emotion but stop and think about what’s happening.

Where are these words coming from? From a place of love/support or from a place of negativity? Choose to address what’s been said, breath slowly, relax your muscles and choose feel the warmth of someone caring enough to pass on their thoughts. Review where there may be merit to the issue, what common ground there could be and take any necessary action, then it let go…. and move on!!! After all, why wouldn’t you? You have a fabulous life to lead which is a blessing in its self!

If you are enjoying these reflections and tips please do tell your friends and family – ask them to sign up for their 7 Fed Up to Fabulous Tips at www.daringdamsels.com

Quote of the day: “Insults should be written in sand, compliments should be carved in stone” Arab Proverb

Wishing you happiness

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor

www.DaringDamsels.com

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Dec

Feeling snowed under this Christmas?

Posted in Christmas.

Can you believe it’s almost Christmas? It seems like the last one was only a few months ago… not a whole year!

If you’re like me you’ve still got a list of preparations on your mind or written down which you feel need to be taken care of before midnight on Christmas Eve. Here in the UK we’ve been blessed with a lot of snow, which is even making online shopping touch and go… will the couriers get through with our orders? Will Santa make it?

I’ve been receiving many emails from my clients over the last few weeks who are really feeling the strain of the additional tasks which they ‘need’ to complete on top of their usual workload. Do you feel this too? If you do, you’re certainly not alone and I remember feeling this way especially when my girls were younger.

Looking back on those days of making everything ‘perfect’ I have to consider, who was it really for? At the time, I would have said for my husband and girls – to make their Christmas special and memorable. I also remember the high demands I put on myself to get it just right – even if I was exhausted, often staying up late in the run up to the big day, not usually getting to bed much before 1am on Christmas Eve feeling shattered. Is that you too?

With the beauty of hindsight I can honestly say that they would have had just much fun and enjoyed it as much if I’d done half the extras. One of the reasons could have been my lower self esteem. Wanting to over compensate for my lack of feeling good enough and so striving for perfection, not feeling confident to just make it ok (which would have been more than good enough). I’d usually be feeling cross and resentful that all the strain feel on my shoulders – but looking back… who was putting pressure on me? Only me….

If this is resonating with you, you’re not the only one. Remember it’s your Christmas time too. A time to celebrate, enjoy, put your feet up and scoff some chocs! I’m here to say you’re more than good enough already and if you need permission to let go and put yourself first, please let me give that to you now.

Taking care of you is more important than anything. Keeping well and happy, you’ll then be able to enjoy yourself whilst taking care of the others.

Consider what is essential, what has to be done. Keep it simple and real. Make a list if you find this useful and choose the most important tasks still to be completed.
Plan when you want to do your last food/present shop – and ask someone to help you if that will make it more efficient and enjoyable.
Acknowledge what you’ve already achieved.
Who could you ask to help share the load? Partner? Older child? Parent? Friend? Often partners seem oblivious to the strain and can’t understand why you’re feeling resentful, so do put them out of their misery. Lovingly let them know you would appreciate some help.
Say ‘no’ to others requests if it takes you away from your ‘to do list’ – choose not to feel guilty.
Remember to choose to take regular breaks of 5 minutes of so. Just stop, remember to relax, breath, focus on positive thoughts and how wonderful the days of Christmas will be. Feel gratitude for all that you have and for what you have achieved.
Reward yourself each evening with a treat. Perhaps a soak in a bubbly bath, a glass of wine, light some candles…
Give yourself permission to enjoy yourself, happily reflect, to celebrate the Christmas season.

I’m only ever an email/text/telephone call away if you want someone to speak to over Christmas, please don’t feel alone (go to contact me page for info).

I wish you a magical Christmas and a fabulous New Year!

With much love and celebration

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor

Daring Damsels – www.daringdamsels.com

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Nov

Compliments – love them or hate them?

Posted in Uncategorized.

I hope you’ve been having a fabulous week! I’ve been reflecting on compliments this week after I was stopped in a supermarket by a lady who wanted to tell me she loved my dress! I’d share some thoughts with you, if that’s ok?

How do you react when you are given a compliment?

What is a compliment? If it’s from a friend or loved one then it comes from a place of kindness – intended from one heart to another. It is a gift. It’s something someone feels or observes which sometimes you can’t see for yourself. You know how good it feels to give a compliment don’t you? I could tell the lady who spoke to me felt great for having the courage to come up to me to give me this gift of a compliment.

So how do you react when someone tells you, you’ve done a good job? Or if they say they like what you’re wearing? Do you thank them with a smile and accept this gift, allowing it to fill you with gratitude that warms your heart. Or do you feel the need to justify saying how cheap the outfit is or that play the compliment and yourself down?

If a compliment is a gift, have you ever wondered how might this make the compliment giver feel? Could it feel like a rejection? Does it leave them and you both feeling a bit empty? Maybe if the compliments are from a loved one, eventually they may stop coming altogether – how sad for both!

I find it useful to just be more aware of what’s going on. To be more conscious when a compliment comes my way… I’ve adopted over time the habit of saying ‘thank you’ and meaning it. I don’t justify, I’m just grateful. And it feels soooooo good! I can see the compliment giver feels great to have given the compliment and it’s a win win all round! How lovely!!!! I was so touched by the lady in the supermarket, how kind of her!

So next time someone says they like your handbag or compliments you on a good job done, what will you say?

If you’re enjoying receiving my emails, please do tell your female friends and family. Ask them to sign up for their 7 Fed Up to Fabulous Tips on the website and then they too will receive my additional tips and offers too. www.daringdamsels.com

Quote for the day: “A compliment is verbal sunshine” Robert Orben

Wishing you compliments galore!

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

www.daringdamsels.com

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Oct

Who are you? What’s special about you?

Posted in Videos.

Sometime we can lose track of who we are. Have you ever felt like that? I know I did. Sometimes it’s the difference between living and existing. When you lose track of who you are, you can feel you’ve lost your voice, wouldn’t you agree? The great news is – it doesn’t have to be this way!

Watch this short video I’ve created for you about regaining your identity, which will support you to raise your self esteem and begin to really live again. If you feel ready to make a shift; if your heart is telling you now is your time – then email me about a free consultation where we can explore how I can support you to feel more fabulous and live the life you desire.

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Oct

Making ‘me time’

Posted in Videos.

Would you agree that as women, it is so easy to find ourselves busy being busy and we forget about letting go and enjoying life – making time to do the things we like to do? The things that make our heart sing and give us a spring in our step. When you value your time and choose to do something for you, let go of any negative thoughts - your self esteem rises.

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Sep

It is time to take a leap of faith

Posted in Life Challenges, Perfect Days, Personal Development, self esteem.

As you may know, I was given the huge privilege of being asked to speak on a radio show in the north of England. Salford City Radio’s host of the Feel Good Show, Sara Lou-Ann Jones, asked me if I would like to come along and speak about going from Fed Up to Fabulous and give self esteem raising tips.

My first thought was – “I can’t do that!”

My second thought was – “Of course you can and you’re going to email back straightway!”.

Isn’t it funny how you can initially think you are not capable of doing something new, something different and something that stretches you? But when you decide to decide and break down your own barriers you can surprise yourself! It just takes a leap of faith in yourself, that is all.

The show went very well, I enjoyed it tremendously and all the feedback has been very positive. I can’t wait to do another one! You know don’t you, that when you step outside your comfort zone although initially it can feel uncomfortable, it feels amazing once you’re on the other side! That is where the magic begins! You can hear my interview (and conquering another personal challenge!). Click here to listen

So what have you not felt capable or good enough to do? I’m sure you are already more than capable, more than good enough… you are ready. This is your time, your time to shine. Do something this week which stretches you a little and also gives you a big boost! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Go for it girlfriend! And don’t forget to email me and let me know what you chose to do!

Quote of the day

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” Benjamin Spocks

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

www.DaringDamsels.com

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Sep

Have you heard the latest scandal?

Posted in happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.

Have you bought a women’s magazine lately? I wonder what motivated you to buy it?

I went on a long train journey recently and realised I had forgotten my book. I looked at the newspaper and magazine stands on the platform and scanned the front covers looking for something that grabbed my attention. The majority of the front covers gave clues to what was inside – stories of scandal, revelations and shock.

If it’s true you attract what you focus on, you have to be selective about what you read, right?

So many of the articles in magazines are sensationalised stories of misery and emotional turmoil. Whilst some stories can inspire many push your energy into a downwards spiral.

As a beautiful intuitive woman, I know you can’t help but imagine how the people in these articles feel; you feel their pain, their misery. And that doesn’t feel good, does it? It’s the same with television programmes such as The Jeremy Kyle show, it’s easy to be caught up in the drama and scandal, but does it do you any good? Does it cause you to feel annoyed, argumentative or fed up? Who would consciously choose to feel this way?

More and more I find myself making a conscious decision to make choices which seek out the positive, which will help me grow, learn and raise my self-esteem.

If you know you are reading or watching media which doesn’t lift your spirits or make you smile, ask yourself “Is this moving me forward or holding me back in my development?” This is your time, move away from the negative and find something more positive to focus on.

Quote of the day

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” Mahatma Gandhi

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

www.DaringDamsels.com

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Mar

A Daring Damsels story

Posted in happiness, Personal Development, self esteem, Setting up a business.

My own personal journey has taken me down some sunny, and down some dark roads in my life.

We’ve all been there haven’t we? I reached a point some years ago where I realised that my self esteem was holding me back – big time!

And that if things were going to change, I needed to change.

After a lot of personal reflection, attending a lot of seminars, presentations, coaching sessions, joining personal development groups, reading books, using my car as my classroom – by listening to top leaders in the personal development world and watching their dvds – I realised that from what I’d been learning and putting into practice, a massive shift was being made! I was getting on top finally and the view was stunning! Having always been someone who likes to help others, I wanted to share this knowledge and experience with others.

I retrained and qualified as a Life Coach Practitioner, NLP Practitioner, and Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Hypnosis. I set up my company – Daring Damsels.

It’s been an exciting journey so far and I’m so happy to be supporting clients to live their life the way they truly want! Sometimes we just get ‘stuck’ don’t we? Can’t see the wood for the trees? I remember thinking ‘There must be more to life than this.’ Sometimes we forget how truly fabulous we really are.

As a life coach I specialise in empowering women to feel fabulous! And being honest who doesn’t want to feel fabulous? I can tell you that I now feel feminine and fabulous!

I do this through one to one coaching (via telephone/Skype/in person), coaching groups (online), mentoring, local workshops and soon I’m taking my workshops into companies. I’m in the process of writing a home study course, as well as introducing a national membership programme to support members to keep on track and feel inspired when the journey is not so easy.

If you or any ladies you know are suffering with low self esteem or feeling ‘stuck’ in life please let me know! I can help! Let me support you to feel fabulous by shine the light on the path ahead, so you can see your way forward with certainty, belief and excitement. Send me a comment, an email at ali@daringdamsels.com and please visit my web site www.daringdamsels.com Life is suppose to be FUN and FABULOUS lets make it so! xx

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A Client Shares Her Story

How Young Do You Feel?

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Feeling snowed under this Christmas?

Compliments – love them or hate them?

Who are you? What’s special about you?

Making ‘me time’

It is time to take a leap of faith

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