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22

Apr

Sabotaging Your Path To Happiness And Success?

Posted in Goal Setting, happiness, Personal Development, Setting up a business.
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How often have you found yourself with an idea or a plan which you know will take you towards your goal in a big way.  As the plan starts to unfold, perhaps it takes you into unfamiliar territory.  And a familiar inner-voice begins to talk to you.  Do you know the one I’m talking about?  The one that says ‘I can’t do it’, ‘how can I?’, ‘I don’t know how to…’

For many of us, it seems easier to allow ourselves to become consumed with self doubt and negative self talk.  It feels so much easier and more comfortable to shrink the dream, play small and hold back.

And yet, the idea was like a freshly planted seed, full of potential – filled with goodness destined to grow to become something special.  Just as you are here to be the best ‘you’ that you can be – let me tell you, you are here for greatness.

If you recognise this self sabotaging pattern, the one that creates the stomach churning feelings, then I’d like to ask you something.  How long will you hold yourself back from the happiness and success which is within your reach?

Come on girl friend!  It’s time to dig deep.  It’s time to take the plunge, the clock is ticking and your life isn’t waiting.   Give your ideas – your little seeds, some love and nurture them into seedlings every day, allowing them to flourish.

Take a little courage and know that you don’t have to do it all alone.  There are experts, mentors and friends who can support you to grow tall.  And there is sunshine where you least expect it!  And you don’t have to do it all at once – just take a step in the direction of your big vision every day.  Imagine, how you will feel when you’ve taken that step, pushed your comfort zone a bit bigger – what more you could become now?  I believe you’ve not even scratched the surface of what you could achieve.  The best is yet to come.  Happiness and success are right there – it’s time to go for it!

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19

Apr

Volcanic ash versus the travellers

Posted in Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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The news last week about the volcano and its billowing ash cloud was such a surprise to say the least.  Was there some warning that I missed?  It seemed that it sprung a surprise on the airlines and the passengers so quickly.  For the thousands of travellers who are not where they want to be it’s not only a frustrating time, it’s also an expensive one.

The stories I am reading on Facebook and hear from friends tell of cancelled holidays, workers who had gone abroad for meetings have been stranded abroad without extra clothing and essentials – desperate to return to loved ones, relatives who cannot get to weddings – weddings being postponed, elders who have run out of their medication, hours of queuing in line for a train tickets, even Witney Huston being forced to catch a car ferry to Ireland for her Dublin O2 gig… all land and sea transport being used to the full.  And the airlines losing millions of pounds each day with their planes waiting for the all clear to fly again.

The Icelandic volcano Eyjafjallajökull has a lot to answer for – a natural occurring crisis affecting Europe, yes a volcano – it seems surreal.

I wonder how many of us have been on a fantastic holiday and imagined how wonderful it would be to find ourselves without the choice of returning home for another week or so.  Maybe it’s just me?  Of course the novelty of the situation would soon wear off as the reality of restricted freedom kicked in.

Often in life, so many of us choose the easy option – the one which feels easy, makes the most sense.  I guess some people are ‘allowing’ this crisis to happen to them – victims of circumstance – feeling powerless and stuck where they are unhappily outside of their comfort zone.   They will be getting used to living a different life for a week or so ‘making the best of it’, their personal world shaping up differently, waiting for some news of how they will be getting back home.

When the chips are down and there is no easy solution to the challenges, isn’t it amazing how others will look for another way of finding their way home?  The determination and desire to be back on home soil with loved ones – or work is immense.

Stepping into their adventure zone, weighing up options, looking for alternative accommodation, checking out various ways to catch cross country trains and getting to ferries.  I know many travellers have run out of money and the trains and ferries are booked up – I read of stories of people grouping together to then look into hiring coaches and cars which are now extortionately priced because of greed and scarcity.

Everyone will have a different story to tell of their adventures.  Everyone will have had their comfort zones stretched in one way and another.   Every situation will be drawing on each person’s inner resources and courage.  I hope this situation is soon improved so everyone can happily get to where they want to be – my heart goes out to them.

If you used the power of your determination to achieve your tasks, how would things be different?  How often do you go the extra mile?  If you had to be somewhere would you travel all night in a taxi (if you had the money and the taxi available) would you do it?  How far is too far?  When you’re looking for a job how far will you travel?  How about a new home, a night out, a trip to see something interesting?  What restrictions do you put on yourself?  What are these restrictions costing you in choice and adventure?  How much more fun, fulfilled, fabulous would your life be if you allowed yourself some additional freedom?  How much courage would you need to find?  Not much I bet, it just takes a decision.  When are you going to get out of your own way?

I work with women who have decided enough is enough.  They are fed up with the frustrations of their life and want to fast track to fabulous.  I work with them to raise their self esteem, master their psychology so they can begin to speak their truth with courage and live a happier life they never dreamt possible.  Can you relate to this?  Would you like to know more?  Message me below or email me in confidence ali@daringdamsels.com I’m so looking forward to hearing from you.

Ali xx

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18

Jan

Amazing Haitian lady escapes after 6 days!

Posted in gratitude, happiness, Personal Development, self esteem.
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I have just been moved to tears watching the news from Haiti.  It wasn’t watching the appalling struggles for humanity in the aftermath of the devastating earthquake, or the dead bodies on the street, although they were terrible to see.  

I happened to switch on the news to see a husband who had heard his wife’s voice coming from under the rubble of a building, 6 days after the earthquake.  It must have been the most welcome sound he’d ever heard and yet, she was still trapped under rubble and steel building rods.  Would she be rescued safely? 

Scrabbling in the dusty rubble a hole was created and the news journalist pushed his microphone into the hole so they could hear from the women.  She said she was ok but her hand was trapped and that she wanted her husband to know that she loves him very much. 

LA fire fighters arrived and began to clear the hole and create further space for a camera to be inserted so they could work out how to release her hand, to free her safely.  We saw the face of courageous a women, her dusty eyes blinked, she was in pain and yet she smiled.  She smiled.  

After carefully dismantling the tomb that she was encased within, this amazing woman was brought out.  Her husband was so relieved and happy.  As she was slid out of the rubble, she lay on a stretcher and burst into song; a song of thanks, a song of hope.  It was deeply moving.  The reporter asked her if she thought she would survive and she smiled and said ‘Of course, why not!’   Her powerful belief of survival was obvious.  She just knew it was going to be ok. 

The next we saw of her, she was sitting in the front seat of a white car, like nothing had happened – a big smile on her face!  I did notice she was on a drip – she must be highly dehydrated after all these days.  What an amazing lady.

From someone who is sitting in the luxury of her own home tonight, with only a decision about what have for dinner… I was humbled by her strength, courage and that smile.

Again, this is an extraordinary story of an ordinary woman.  So when we think we’re having a bad day, maybe we should wonder – compared to whom?  When our life isn’t quite the way we want, we could think – Who can change it?  This lady must have not only strong belief in her God, her husband, her rescuers but also in herself.  She must have felt worth saving.  She did not give up.

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09

Jan

Have you checked out your ‘Super Powers’ lately?

Posted in Goal Setting, gratitude, Personal Development.
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Wow, the big freeze continues to chill the UK – more snow to come tonight and sub zero temperatures. 

Isn’t it wonderful how when we’re in crisis everyone pulls together for the greater good?  There was on old lady of 89 years on the television last night saying how neighbours had been checking in on her, making sure she had everything.  She said how marvelous it was – “I didn’t realise people were bothered about me until now.”  It warms my heart.  I only hope that these neighbours keep up the contact once the thaw sets in and beyond.

Also, what warms my heart are the stories I hear on the news about villagers helping out their neighbours getting an extra loaf or pint of milk for each other, the stamina of the guys gritting our roads, the shops that are keeping open to serve the local people, the power line workers repairing the frozen power supply ‘things’ ;) to get the power back to thousands of homes – the meals on wheels co-ordinators/delivery people ensuring those less able are still receiving their hot meals.  The roadside assistance heroes, emergency services – these people must be the most welcome of sights when you’re cold and in trouble.   My postman has continued delivering letters everyday – he walks 4 miles to the post office before he starts his round.  Pushing the trolley of letters he says is challenging in the snow, but he keeps on.   I feel an immense sense of gratitude for the kindness and stamina of these ordinary people doing extraordinary things.

Isn’t it amazing what we can achieve when the chips are down?  How the combined spirit of challenge makes the mountain that needs climbing seem less daunting? How we can go the extra mile when we’re tired, if we really want to?  Sometimes we get a ‘second wind’.  Often when we feel like we’re facing an uphill challenge, it’s easier not to bother and quit.  When you push through your comfort zone you find it stretches further and further out – like a balloon that one’s expanded the first time never shrinks to its original size.  Within each and everyone of us we have massive inner strength – yes, all of us.  These are like our own ‘Super Powers’ – we can achieve much more than we think we can!  When we know a job has to be done, we draw on these powers and the good news is – we don’t have to wear our pants on the outside of our trousers ;)  we just become unstoppable!  Isn’t it great?   I admire these ladies and gentlemen for their courage, determination and inner strength. What wonderful stories they will be telling future generations about the extreme winter of 2009/2010!

When you’re working towards achieving your goals, how will you cope with the challenges that lay ahead?  When will you draw on your ’Super Powers’?  What will you be saying to yourself?  How will you find the strength to keep going?  How important are your goals?   Who will you help along the way?  Who can help you?  Who can encourage you to go the extra mile?   If I can help – message me or go to www.daringdamsels.com or www.alisoleil.com for more information!

Sending you all a big warm hug on this bitterly cold day! :)

Tagged comfort zone, courage, crisis, determination, emergency services, goals, gratitude, gritters, help, hug, ice, inner strength, neighbours, snow, stamina, sub zero, super powers, winter | Comments (1)

07

Jan

Will Smith for President?

Posted in Goal Setting, Personal Development, self esteem, Setting up a business, Uncategorized.
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I urge you – please give yourself 10 minutes today, to watch and reflect on this….

 

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You have to admire Will Smith – Don’t you? 

He’s not just an awesome actor whose charisma oozes from the screen - he’s a fine role model to all generations… In this video of clips posted on youtube, he shares snippets of his philosophy.  It blows me away to hear him talk with such PASSION, enthusiasm and COURAGE.  I get shivers down my spine. 

This is a man who not only walks his talk, he’s proof it works.  He is a driven individual who HAPPILY focuses on what he wants – he CHOOSES not to sweat the small stuff… stays on track with CONVICTION in his belief that he can achieve.  Does not listen to the doubters and MAKES it happen.

What a powerful man. 

What can we learn from him?  How easily do we forget our dreams?  Decide we ‘can’t do it’? Make excuses for not achieving?  Even put some blame on others… Do you know anyone who does that?  Do you believe in yourself?  What goal can you say you will achieve this year – with total courage and conviction? Mmm… something to think about…

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