I hope you’re finding yourself feeling a bit more aware of your response to compliments since the last blog on that subject. How about criticisms? It’s difficult to get through a life time without a lot of small, medium and large criticisms.
If someone says a throw away comment which feels like a criticism or an insult – how do you react to that? From my experience of coaching fabulous ladies, I find that most of us allow a criticism to cut to the core. It sits in our heads and we re-live the negative feelings forever more and yet a compliment just vaporises away as if it never happened. Isn’t that interesting?
By raising our awareness we can live more consciously and choose how we deal with compliments and criticisms. So when you feel criticised, it may sting, you may initially feel a negative emotion but stop and think about what’s happening.
Where are these words coming from? From a place of love/support or from a place of negativity? Choose to address what’s been said, breath slowly, relax your muscles and choose feel the warmth of someone caring enough to pass on their thoughts. Review where there may be merit to the issue, what common ground there could be and take any necessary action, then it let go…. and move on!!! After all, why wouldn’t you? You have a fabulous life to lead which is a blessing in its self!
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Quote of the day: “Insults should be written in sand, compliments should be carved in stone” Arab Proverb
Wishing you happiness
Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor