Wow, not feeling so fabulous right now - I was about an hour ago and I know I will be again any moment. It only takes a decision to change our state of emotion. We all have this amazing gift, we hold the remote control to how we think, feel and can change it if we want something different. Just choose to cast your mind back to a time when you felt happier, free-er, when you laughed so hard tears appeared – or a time you felt completely calm and at peace. Go back there now, through your own eyes, see what you saw, feel what you felt and really feel those feelings again now. So I choose to feel happier and more fabulous.
I don’t know if you do this too – but I sometimes I slip up and I forget who I can share my good new with and those it’s best not to share with.
I have had some great successes with my business lately and my daughters are happy. I am so excited for our futures. I chose to speak to a close relative today and share my truth with her but unfortunately I slipped up. I know better than to do this. You see all my life I have been seeking approval from this person and many years ago, I realised that their approval was not as important as my own self approval and self-worth. Isn’t it interesting how we unintentionally put our head into the ‘lions mouth’ over and over – just trusting and hoping for a different response? Have you done this too?
Some people don’t want to see you progress because they are fearful that you will fail. Sometimes, they don’t want you to progress so the dynamics of the relationship may change. Sometimes, they are jealous of your progress or they realise just how their thinking ‘small’ has held them back from ‘being’ or having what they have always wanted. In my case I think that this person wants great things for me and yet the ‘script’ that she lives her life by has makes her fearful, unable to be empathetic or joyful of my journey.
An innocent trigger can provoke these often unconscious responses from others. It is down to me to decide how I react to this response. I am responsible for my thoughts and feelings. I can choose to feel let down and hurt or I can choose to let it go and give myself all the approval I desire. I can look at my success journal and remind myself of how far I’ve come. Isn’t it fantastic that we can give ourselves the permission to feel fabulous and shake off the negative comments/vibes if we wish to!
Wonderful, that’s me feeling better already!
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