Isn’t it funny how we talk about ‘heartfelt’ gestures and ‘being in love’, messages from the heart and yet we do not generally follow this magical intuition that we all posses inside of us on a daily basis?

Having a sense of what is the right thing to do is often a ‘head’ rather than a ‘heart’ decision.  We tend to intellectualise what we think we ‘should’ do rather than what feels right; listening to our gut instinct or what our heart is telling us.  Most of us do this; unconsciously we allow our ego to rule our life – not our spirit. 

Our spirit is free of conditions or judgement and just is.  When we make heartfelt decisions we are in alignment with our spirit – who we truly are.  We feel joyful, a sense of inner calm, feel trusting, a sense of certainty, passion and focus. 

Our ego is fearful, constantly comparing, judging, weighing up, protecting us – keeping us in our comfort zone, afraid to show weakness and it makes our head decisions, it’s also our ‘social mask’ – this is not who we are.

How would it be if you listened to your heart when you make your daily and life choices?  I have been focusing more and more on my heart feelings and messages in the last few months.  Really connecting at a deep level with ‘my truth’ – being in alignment with who I am.  That old saying ‘The true will set you free’ now feels like a mantra in my mind.  When you listen to your heart and make a heartfelt decision – you are begin honest with yourself.

Sometimes, it can be confusing.  For example if you are ‘scared’ of going to the dentist, then you may experience feelings of anxiety when it’s time to visit.  This again is ego – wanting to protect.  Recognising where that feeling is coming from, your heart or your head takes some patience.  Asking yourself ‘what is the higher purpose of this feeling’ is a good way of working out whether it’s a rational or an irrational feeling.  The higher purpose of going to the dentist is about well being, and so this is about comfort zone and negative ego messages. 

A few months ago I was asked to take on the Chair role of my local networking group of which I am a member.  My first thought was ‘no this isn’t for me’ and I assumed this response was ‘ego’ based – fear of public speaking.  As I mentor women to step out of their comfort zone it seemed important for me to walk my talk and so found myself taking the role.  I have chaired the meetings a few times and did not find it fun.  I was finding myself drained of energy every time I thought about it and my creativity felt like it was trickling away.  I spent some time in quiet reflection considering why this was happening and asked myself the question ‘what is the higher purpose of this feeling’.  I chose to listen to my heart. 

I discovered that when I was Chairing I was that I was not in alignment with my truth.  That’s it.  Public speaking is not my passion – I am more than capable of doing it well but it is not where my heart is – when I do it, I am not in alignment with my truth.  I love writing and when I run my workshops I am delivering my message – then I am in my truth, ‘heart space’.  By resigning from the role, I immediately felt lighter, energised and my sense of creativity came flowing back.  I was back in my ‘flow’, feeling in harmony with who I am.

What secrets do you hold inside which if you could release would make your heart sing?  It can take strength of character to own up to your truth.  The fall out may be tricky to start with, but it’s what your heart has been telling you.  Are you being or doing something you are not truly happy with?  How much freer, joyful, lighter, happier would you be if you lived in your truth? – Owned your truth?  If you would like some support around living your truth – contact me through my website www.daringdamsels.com and I will be so happy to connect with you.

Ali xx