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happiness

28

Mar

Love or Rage Which Would You Choose?

Posted in happiness, Life Challenges, Perfect Days, Personal Development, self esteem.
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Have you ever felt like you could self combust with rage?  I know I have.   When things just seem to keep going wrong?  Like the domino effect, one thing triggers the next…. Arrrggghhhh!

Once you find yourself sliding down this slippery pathway to a meltdown it seems the only thing to do is just keep on sliding, doesn’t it?  Saying “I knew that was going to happen”… and it usually does.

This is where things can change.  I can now do it, and I know you can too.

So what is ‘it’?  Well, ‘it’ is love.  Love is the greatest feeling of all wouldn’t you agree?  If you’re feeling love in your heart and body – is it possible to be in a rage at the same time?  I don’t think so.  They are at opposite ends of the emotional spectrum, aren’t they?  You get what you focus on so choose carefully – happiness or anger/frustration?

Rather continuing down the path way to complete meltdown and rage try these 7 tips:

  1. STOP.  Take a moment to acknowledge how you are feeling and focus on your breathing.  Decide to take a few moments out for yourself. 
  2. Gain some perspective on the situation.  Is it really as you imagine/find it or is there another way of looking at it?  Could you be kinder to yourself in this moment than you are currently being?
  3. Depending on where you are or what your circumstance continue to focus on your breathing, close your eyes if it is safe to do so… imagine you are breathing in love, imagine seeing the beautiful colours of love being drawn towards you and circulating around your heart, maybe see butterflies and bubbles.
  4. Breathe out all the frustration. 
  5. Focus on a better feeling thought – love.  Perhaps someone you love and focus your thoughts on some of the qualities within that person or remember back to a time when you felt so happy, so full of laughter.  Focus on those thoughts for a few moments and allow yourself the time to refocus on positive feelings and thoughts. 
  6. Give yourself the gift of a smile and let go. 
  7. Relax your tense muscles and open your eyes to a more positive reality.

Quote of the day:  “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” Author Unknown

Feeling like you could do with some support right now, drop me an email and let’s have a chat?

Wishing you so much happiness

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

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21

Mar

Have You Watched Sex and The City?

Posted in happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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Have you watched first Sex and the City film?  There was one line that I remember so clearly.  The character Samantha was breaking up with her long term boyfriend Smith and uttered these immortal lines “I love you, but I love me more”.

She loved him but she knew in her heart that it wasn’t right and that in order to be true to herself, ended the relationship.

I wonder how many of us live life pleasing others whilst ignoring our inner calling.  Some of us do this in relationships, some in their work… have you done this too?

The other day I heard a lady saying “Secrets are like shadows on the heart”.  Are you living your truth?   When you can be honest with yourself, what do you know is your truth?  When will be the right time to step up out of your comfort zone and into your truth?  Is it too scary to contemplate this alone?  Would it be easier if you had someone to hold your hand and keep you on track?

I am offering a complimentary 30 minute clarity telephone/Skype coaching sessions to 5 ladies who are ready to step into their truth.  If you are ready to gain some clarity, email me with ‘Clarity Session’ in the subject line.  Last time I made an offer the spaces were snapped up quickly, so let me know now if you’d like one! ali@daringdamsels.com

Quote of the day:  “For me the greatest beauty always lies in the greatest clarity.” Gotthold Ephraim Lessing

Wishing you clarity in your life

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor

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14

Mar

Where Is The Love?

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It’s been a great day so far, lots of time to catch up on my business and also to connect with some special friends.  I hope you’re having a good day too!

Something keeps on being said in my head today – which is “Where is the love?” and it’s sung in Justin Timberlake’s voice! ;)   He sang a song with the Black Eyed Peas that has this as its title.  I thought I’d drop you a line and see if it resonates with you.

It ‘should’ all be so simple really, shouldn’t it?  We are love.  We give love.  We love to receive love.  And yet so many of us are pushing against the flow of love and feeling the resistance – which pushes us into a negative state.

When we feel fed up with our children, our partners, our friends, we can so quickly go from 0 – 60 in 5 seconds feeling anger or resentment building up inside of us.  When this happens “where is the love?”  And that’s it really.  Where does it go in that instance?

Listening to some fabulous friends today talking about their situations, I ventured to ask them the question “where is the love?”   It stopped them in their tracks.  If you could take a step away from the situation, take some deep breaths, choose to focus on feeling some love for that person – how could you handle a situation differently? 

How about next time your inner gremlin says something unkind – ask yourself the question “where is the love?” (with or without Justin’s voice!)

Quote of the day: “Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” Gary Zukav

Here it is! Sending you lots of love

Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor

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07

Mar

Are you ready to step up? Here is my offer to you

Posted in Goal Setting, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, self esteem.
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I was moved some years ago by a poem which I’d love to share with you.  You may be familiar with the words of Marianne Williamson, I’m sure if you’re like me then you won’t mind reading them again.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.  Your playing small does not serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”  

I wonder how these words affect you?  I know that the first time I read them I could see how I’d been ‘fitting’ in with everyone else and was keeping myself small so I didn’t stand out, didn’t want to risk criticism from others and lacked belief in myself – I didn’t want to be seen.  Do you do this too?  My self esteem was very low.  It cost me relationships with friends and partners, I didn’t think anyone would find me interesting or my opinions.  I felt I was a disappointment to my family, was happy to spend money on my children but not on myself,  didn’t like myself very much, didn’t feel safe and was always worrying about things.  And then good news -  it began to change!  I got some coaching and mentoring!

It was like the chains that were holding me a prisoner just dropped off and I was able to step into the light, regain my self esteem, discover who I really was and began to live my purpose to the full. 

Whilst I didn’t have the money, I knew I didn’t want to put my life on hold and if things stayed as they were, I’d never have the money.  I could see how much my flawed thought patterns and behaviours were costing me (and as a role model, future generations).  I knew that my happy future depended on getting some support.  I was ready to invest in myself so I borrowed some money and used my credit card.  It was the best thing I could have done to set myself free and to release the ‘real’ me again!

Having a coach to ‘hold my hand’, someone who asked me the difficult questions that I’d never asked myself, who supported and believed in me, my really accelerated my progress.  The results were tremendous!  I still have a coach and a mentor today who support me to accelerate in other areas of my life - coaching is super powerful!

Do you feel ready to step into the light too?  Have these blogs over the months been supporting you to make some changes which are creating a better life for you? 

If you feel that you would like to accelerate your progress, invest in yourself and work with me on a one to one basis then I have an offer for you!  This won’t be for everyone, but if your heart is telling you this is your time, then I have only 5 spaces to take on new clients currently.  I would love to have an informal chat with you if you feel ready to shine.

Most clients choose book a series of 6 x 50 minutes weekly sessions with me as this is more effective than booking one off sessions.  Your investment in 6 sessions is £497.  However, as you are one of my loyal Damsels, I am offering you the opportunity of applying for one of these 5 places with a massive £100 off the usual price bringing this amazing offer to you at £397!!!!   My mentor thinks I’ve lost the plot as my prices will be going up in the near future, and yet I feel in my heart that I want to do this for you.  This blog will be seen many hundred ladies, many of whom have booked sessions with me in the past and who will want to snap up this bargain, so I urge you to be quick in replying.  Please email me with ‘Application for discount’ in the subject line and a short message and I’ll get back to you asap to arrange our informal, no obligation chat ali@daringdamsels.com.  This offer is only open to you for the next 7 days.

Let me know if you are ready to draw the line in the sand, to step up into the light to allow me the privilege of supporting you get your life ‘back’.

With love and happiness

Ali xx  Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

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What do some previous clients say about their coaching/mentoring experience with me?

“Ali’s wonderful warmth and generous spirit puts you immediately at ease. Her intuition and empathy combined with a fervent support of what makes each individual woman uniquely special leads to a coaching session that is uplifting and inspiring. Ali will not only make you realise what is great about you, but help you on a path towards realising your own unique potential.” Yiannik Bennett, Florida

“Ali immediately made me feel very comfortable and safe during our coaching session with her friendly and empathetic approach. I had been blocked for some time and was unsure how to progress forward. She skillfully changed tack when it became apparent that I was not going to respond predictably but still enabled me to feel in control at all times. Due to her spontaneous and skillful creativity, we ended up achieving far more than I would have dreamed possible. As a result of the session, I at last feel able to move forward again, helped in no small way by the strategies and exercises she has given me. I give Ali highest recommendation. Anyone who is seeking sensitive and skilled guidance in their business or personal lives would benefit greatly by seeking her help”. Laurelle Rond, England

“What is special about Ali’s coaching is her gentle and compassionate approach, along with her perceptive and intuitive insights. Through her support and her powerful questioning, I have been able to see more clearly and be more empowered. I would thoroughly recommend her to anyone who wants to make deep and significant changes in their lives. Thank you Ali for all your help!” Hilary Reeves, England

“Ali has a great manner about her. She is patient and easy to talk to and really helped me to think about my priorities and focus in life.”  Ros Kitson, England

“Ali is a wonderful, sensitive and compassionate coach and friend. She has helped me to get back in touch with my self worth and talents when I had lost sight of them, spending many years at home looking after my family. I now feel ready to move on to the next stage of my life and I am very grateful to Ali for helping me find the way.” Chris Iishin Horner, New Zealand

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20

Feb

How Young Do You Feel?

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If you didn’t know your biological age – how old would you say you are?  Having chatted amongst my girlfriends recently we giggled as we shared our ‘heart’ ages… the age we’ve been for a long time on the inside.  One lovely lady who is about 43 biological years old, said she’s felt for a long time that really she’s only ’30′ years old another said she feels like she is ’6′ years old inside and I said I’m really ’18′ years old.

Isn’t it funny how we can have two ages?  What’s your ‘heart’ age?  The lady who is ’30′ said that she’s happily felt a sense of responsibility since she was very young.  The lady who said she’s ’6′ years old inside felt that she’s often confused by the world, daunted by the world – and I have to remember that my own daughters biologically are 17 and 18 years old and that I can’t join in with ALL that they do! Even if I feel like it!

It can be that a significant event has happened at a certain age, and inside we’ve stayed there whilst the external aging process has carried on.

Sometimes our ‘heart’ age says more about us than our biological age.  And that is ok.  Life is fun; it’s not mean to be all serious and hard work.  Do what makes you happy!  If we feel like we’re only ’6′ sometimes or even ’90′ it is ok to ask for help and support when it’s needed.  We all need a bit of help sometimes.  Reach out and be thankful for it.

Quote of the day

“Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.” Jim Fiebig

Wishing you bubbles and fairy dust

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

Fab Friends Network www.fabfriendsnetwork.co.uk    Daring Damsels www.daringdamsels.com

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27

Dec

Are You Sensitive To Criticism?

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I hope you’re finding yourself feeling a bit more aware of your response to compliments since the last blog on that subject.  How about criticisms?  It’s difficult to get through a life time without a lot of small, medium and large criticisms. 

If someone says a throw away comment which feels like a criticism or an insult – how do you react to that?  From my experience of coaching fabulous ladies, I find that most of us allow a criticism to cut to the core.  It sits in our heads and we re-live the negative feelings forever more and yet a compliment just vaporises away as if it never happened.  Isn’t that interesting?

By raising our awareness we can live more consciously and choose how we deal with compliments and criticisms.  So when you feel criticised, it may sting, you may initially feel a negative emotion but stop and think about what’s happening. 

Where are these words coming from?  From a place of love/support or from a place of negativity?  Choose to address what’s been said, breath slowly, relax your muscles and choose feel the warmth of someone caring enough to pass on their thoughts.  Review where there may be merit to the issue, what common ground there could be and take any necessary action, then it let go…. and move on!!!  After all, why wouldn’t you?  You have a fabulous life to lead which is a blessing in its self!

If you are enjoying these reflections and tips please do tell your friends and family – ask them to sign up for their 7 Fed Up to Fabulous Tips at www.daringdamsels.com

Quote of the day:  “Insults should be written in sand, compliments should be carved in stone” Arab Proverb

Wishing you happiness

 Ali xx

 Ali Soleil – Feminine Mentor

 www.DaringDamsels.com

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19

Oct

What do you want?

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When you’re thinking about your life and looking forward, do you know what you really want? 

Knowing what you want is the important thing.  Not to worry about the ‘how’… but to keep focused on the outcome, what you want to happen and not get bogged down in the nitty gritty of how it will become your reality.

It’s good for you to have some clarity about what you really want.  Most of us know what we don’t want and struggle to know what we do want.  As you’re reading this, I know you are wanting to gain higher self esteem and confidence.  Imagine how different your home life, family life, career, finances etc will be once you have built these up - these are your reasons for building your self esteem in the first place.  If you are unclear about what you want and maybe there are some grey areas in your thinking.  You’re not alone, so many clients struggle with this and they book me for a coaching session or more.  If you’d like to devote some special time to exploring and discovering just what you do want, email me at ali@daringdamsels.com this is your life, you deserve it to be a fulfilling and happy one!

So, whatever you want or dream of, get into the habit of asking yourself – or even praying to a higher power for an answer every night before you fall asleep.  Ask for the way to be shown to you.  You may well wake up with more ideas – write them down and keep pen and paper by your bed ready. 

What I’ve started doing more recently is keeping a diary just to record the bursts of inspiration.  So often we do not do anything with this information or ideas which come from our higher self/Universe and yet they are the very gifts which will guide us on our path.  Today I looked at my diary again and had already forgotten to take action on some points – so I was so grateful for having recorded them.  That’s what we all do, we get the messages, think wow and then we forget them, so I urge you to keep a record of them and begin taking action.

The way to achieve your dreams may not seem probable or realistic at first glance, it does not mean that it is impossible, just open your mind… and be aware that sometimes the way will be shown in a less likely way than the obvious. 

Quote of the day

 ”Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” Mary Kay Ash

 Wishing you all you wish for yourself

 Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor – www.DaringDamsels.com

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11

Oct

Who are you? What is your identity?

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Sometime we can lose track of who we are.  Have you ever felt like that?  I know I did.  Sometimes it’s the difference between living and existing.  When you lose track of who you are, you can feel you’ve lost your voice, wouldn’t you agree?  The great news is – it doesn’t have to be this way!

Watch this short video I’ve created for you about regaining your identity, which will support you to raise your self esteem and begin to really live again.  Do comment or email me your thoughts ali@daringdamsels.com.  If you feel ready to make a shift; if your heart is telling you now is your time – then email me about a free consultation where we can explore how I can support you to feel more fabulous and live the life you desire.

Wishing you oodles of self love

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor – www.daringdamsels.com

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05

Oct

Have you remembered to make time for you? ‘Me time’

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Would you agree that as women, it is so easy to find ourselves busy being busy and we forget about letting go and enjoying life – making time to do the things we like to do?  The things that make our heart sing and give us a spring in our step.  When you value your time and choose to do something for you, let go of any negative thoughts - your self esteem rises. 

Watch this video and comment or email me what you like to do ali@daringdamsels.com Looking forward to hearing from you.

Wishing you happiness

Love

Ali xx

Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

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13

Sep

Have you heard the latest scandal?

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Have you bought a women’s magazine lately?  I wonder what motivated you to buy it?

I went on a long train journey recently and realised I had forgotten my book.  I looked at the newspaper and magazine stands on the platform and scanned the front covers looking for something that grabbed my attention.  The majority of the front covers gave clues to what was inside – stories of scandal, revelations and shock.

If it’s true you attract what you focus on, you have to be selective about what you read, right?

So many of the articles in magazines are sensationalised stories of misery and emotional turmoil.  Whilst some stories can inspire many push your energy into a downwards spiral.

As a beautiful intuitive woman, I know you can’t help but imagine how the people in these articles feel; you feel their pain, their misery.  And that doesn’t feel good, does it?  It’s the same with television programmes such as The Jeremy Kyle show, it’s easy to be caught up in the drama and scandal, but does it do you any good?  Does it cause you to feel annoyed, argumentative or fed up?  Who would consciously choose to feel this way?

More and more I find myself making a conscious decision to make choices which seek out the positive, which will help me grow, learn and raise my self-esteem.

If you know you are reading or watching media which doesn’t lift your spirits or make you smile, ask yourself “Is this moving me forward or holding me back in my development?”  This is your time, move away from the negative and find something more positive to focus on.

Quote of the day

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” Mahatma Gandhi

 Ali xx

Ali Soleil – Feminine Self Esteem Mentor

www.DaringDamsels.com

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