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Jun

Woohoo! Thank YOU!

Posted in Articles, gratitude, happiness, Life Challenges.

I would like to say an enormous heartfelt THANK YOU to everyone for voting for me in the Women Inspiring Women National Awards! As you know, I was nominated, then shortlisted for ‘Woman’s Advocate /Role Model Award’ and on Saturday night, I travelled up to the Crown Plaza, Birmingham NEC for a night of sparkle and celebration. What a night!

As the names and photographs of shortlisted ladies were flashed up on the big screen, I could feel the energy and wonder rising in the room. There were cheers, clapping and anticipation… When it came to the category I was shortlisted for, I watched the names flash up of those who I admire so much – and then the gold envelope was opened “And the award goes to….” “Ali Soleil!” I couldn’t believe it! I was shocked and elated at the same time! As I walked to the stage and climbed the steps I thought in true Oscar’s style “Oh no! I’m going to cry!” I didn’t though. Phew! Funny now, looking back a few days later but I was so overwhelmed and feeling a deep sense of gratitude for all the support I’d received. The journey hasn’t always been so smooth.

I remember just less than a year and a half ago, sitting on the edge of a wall with my partner, looking out across the sea to St Michaels Mount in Cornwall, wondering if and when my business was going to take off. It was a struggle and a seed of doubt had crept in and was festering and growing. Was I going to make it? You see my business is my passion, it’s part of who I am. Have you ever felt like this? The thought of giving up on my dream wasn’t appealing and looking for a fulfilling job just didn’t seem an option. It’s funny how it’s so often said that you get the ‘break-down before the break-through’ because it is so true. It’s all most like a divine test, to see if you’re committed to your purpose, if you can hold your nerve – and fortunately I did. Even though the seed of doubt had crept in, I still had faith it would work out and decided to get out of doubt and back into purpose. Serving women in their greatness is my passion, what’s yours?

Since sitting on the wall and making that decision, my business has grown fast – and so have I! Getting out of my comfort zone and giving talks, making videos, setting up Fab Friends Network, starting a second group, working with clients individually and also in my higher level mentoring group. It’s been hard at times, just like ‘growing pains’ but overall a joyful experience – because my passion is supporting women to step into their truth, know their passions in life, discover their purpose – and often to support them to monetise this in an expansive and fabulous business. I guess, just as I have done for myself. There have been some huge mind shifts along the way, some big blocks have now thankfully gone, some new clarity gained.

And this has been a very special year so far, and I am so hugely grateful for all the support, belief and love that I’ve received from so many including my partner, clients, friends and family, my mentor Carly Hope and to Lucie Bradbury and the fabulous team behind Women Inspiring Women National Awards. So a really big thank you to you all.

And if you’re still sat on ‘your wall’ wondering, dig a little deeper, how committed are you to your desire? Banish doubt and get on purpose. Does it feel like your souls mission? If it is, breathe, get ready for the inner calling, be ready to receive the bursts of inspiration that you will come from your souls divine source, hear them and take the inspired action and a giant leap of faith. The world needs beautiful YOU!

Love and sunshine

Ali xx

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Jun

Live In Abundance Now

Posted in Articles, Goal Setting, happiness, Life Challenges, Perfect Days, Personal Development.

Following on from yesterday’s blog post, have you decided you’ll do whatever it takes to break through your glass ceiling to live a rich, fulfilling and abundant life? Perhaps creating a business around your passion and purpose? If you have, read on:

What would it take for you to choose what you’d love to have, and own the dream? Take some time out to reflect and dream on that – literally, have some time out – a walk in nature, some ‘me time’, to sit, doodle and dream. Everything is about choice and of course love! Be in love with what you want for you! – It’s ok!

We live in an abundant world and when we expand our comfort zone and dream bigger it can fill our tummies with butterflies and excitement. Hold onto the passion you feel, for this is what will carry you forward. The inner gremlin will begin to plant the seeds of doubt in your mind and they will grow – if you give them focus – so keep focused on what you want.

Now you know what you want, how will you bring it into your reality?

Build a dream board with pictures of what you’d love to have, become and experience – don’t be shy – own the power of each image and get behind the emotions they stir as if you had already achieved them.
Journal your feelings and thoughts and progress.
If it is a physical experience you wish to achieve, immerse yourself as close to the experience as you can. Try it on for size, visit, watch videos, read books on subjects etc
If you know that others have achieve this desire for themselves, for instance if you want a red Audi TT and you know that others have one, then know with absolute certainty that it is possible to have this car (just as others do) and that you can too. You are meant to have it also – so believe it is possible! Own your desire with certainty!
Value yourself – value you. You are your greatest asset, believe in yourself and own your power!
Be true to yourself, expand your thinking every day – expand your comfort zone everyday – do something new!
Have a ritual of gratitude – give thanks for all you have now, even the smallest things and feel gratitude as if you’ve already achieved your desires
Ask for help from your spirit guides and angels, they will help you, but you have to ask first.
Spot the opportunities that come your way and take inspired action on each one! Quickly!
Share you desires only with those who will nurture your dreams and goals and support you to shine brightly.
Let go of the ‘how’ and focus on the outcome you want, the ‘how’ will show up.
Celebrate each step of the way and take some leaps of faith in yourself.
Find yourself a buddy who will support you to keep on your path
Choose a mentor and coach who will not only keep you focused and motivated, but who will support you to break through the belief blocks that unless identified and released will stop you from ever fulfilling your potential.

I work closely with forward thinking women in small groups and special individual VIP Day’s where they smash though their blocks and accelerate towards their goals. It’s not for everyone and I work on an application basis.

But if you’ve had enough of being comfortable being uncomfortable and ready to claim your birth right – follow your desires, with passion and purpose and would like to feel supported on this journey then make an empowering decision today – there is no time to waste. Decide that you are worth it, you can achieve it.

Message me ali@alisoleil.com and ask about a complimentary consultation session to discover how I can support you to break away from your struggles and into the reality you were meant to be experiencing where it is abundant, joyful and fulfilling. It really is waiting for you, are you going to take it?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

To all your successes

Ali xx

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Jun

Are You Ready To Live In Abundance?

Posted in Articles, Perfect Days, Personal Development, Setting up a business.

Have you noticed how easy it is to get comfortable being uncomfortable? Wishing your life and business were more abundant and not knowing how to move toward getting what you want? It’s like there is something in-built that stops us from reaching out and living the life of our dreams and we’re kept on the side lines, playing small and thinking “one day it’ll be different” but knowing deep down that something has to change in our thinking before it could happen and time is ticking on….

Martin Luther King said “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” And yet, when we don’t feel it’s something we can realistically achieve, the first step up, can just seem a bit too high and we abandon the dream to stick with being comfortable, in our comfort zone settling for second best. And our life just plods on.

It’s not meant to be this way! You are meant to stand out and shine!

Often when I ask my clients what they would really love to have, become or do they struggle… they feel uncomfortable. Sometimes they are embarrassed to express what they’d really love, because they feel undeserving, selfish or that it just could never happen to them… if they see someone else living their dream and they say they feel envious of those experiencing what they wish they could be experiencing – has it happened to you too?

And how do I know all this? Because I was there, in that place not so long ago. And now I’ve discovered that following my passions, has lead me to my purpose and by building a business around my purpose with support of mentors, I’ve broken though the glass ceilings that my limiting beliefs had created and my life is changing magically! It really has become abundant! Would you like that too?

Are you ready to make the big shift and harvest your desires? Would you like to break through your glass ceiling? Even to build a business around your desires and purpose – and monetise it in such a way that feels fabulous, exciting and effortless? Part Two of my blog will follow tomorrow, so do come back to find out how you too can make this happen!

Sunshine and smiles

Ali xx

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Dec

My Reflective Review of 2011

Posted in Articles, happiness, Life Challenges, Personal Development, Setting up a business.

Like me, you’ll be reviewing your achievements of 2011. It’s so important to look back at them, revisit and enjoy the memories, to celebrate them and to take the learnings of the year. What are you most proud of, what’s the icing on the top of the cake for you? What could you have done differently? What have you gained? What or who have you let go of? What was your biggest learning about yourself? Who were the key players this year who made a significant impact on you?

As I reflect back I remember that by the end of 2010 was beginning to feel uneasy. I was continuing to work hard and yet the results were not showing up in my business fast enough. I had some full workshops and 1:1 clients although I wondered if I needed to find a ‘proper’ job (perhaps return to my recruitment industry roots) and yet I really didn’t want to. My calling to serve women, to support them in their greatness was so strong. I knew that I had to keep focused, not allow fear to take over take what I am here to do.

I have invested so much in my own learning since 2004 with mentors, coaches, seminars, conferences, bootcamps as well as books, audios and training dvds. What was slowing me down was that some of what I’d learned conflicted greatly with my own authenticity and it was on my mind so much of the time. My thoughts were affecting my progress. Have you ever felt that? It was like pushing away from the side of the swimming pool as I decided to break away from what did not fit with my own values and to step further into my own truth. Choosing to love and let go of the people who I was not in alignment with and instead be true to myself, honour my clients authentically. This move felt bold, empowering yet scary at the same time! Having said this, I was so grateful for all the learnings and experience as it supported me to gain clarity on my own values, my purpose, who my clients are and how I can honour and support them to step into their greatness. Does this resonate with you?

It was time to step up big and take the empowering practices that I’d learned and integrate them in with my intentions! One of my dreams for some years was to set up a self development group for women and I decided to stop procrastinating and take a giant leap out of my comfort zone. At the beginning of March, I launched a self development group for women in High Wycombe called Fab Friends Network. Some wonderful women joined my membership group and began making great changes in their lives. I was asked to appear on another local radio station and many speaking bookings came flowing my way. Creating videos raised my visibility and pushed me further out of my comfort zone. More clients connected with me – my authentic self, and knew I could support them to get great results. I chose not to become distracted from my path and launched a VIP Group for 5 women in September, who I work with at a higher level, this group is called the Butterfly Circle and we meet each month for a day of learning, sharing and mentoring. And a second Fab Friends Network group was launched in Basingstoke, Hampshire in October. It was very exciting to have two new websites built www.alisoleil.com and www.fabfriendsnetwork.com. The year unfolded beautifully with happiness, integrity and life lessons of trusting, surrendering, self belief and focus.

My clients have inspired and delighted me with their transformations, decisions, dreams and support. They have made such tremendous progress, I feel privileged to work with every single beautiful soul. I’ve also met some hugely inspiring women mentors this year who have taught me so much and guided me to make authentic decisions in my business – and life. I’ve been fortunate to attend some eye and heart opening workshops and talks in London with inspiring speakers such as Byron Katie, Sonia Choquette and Dr Michael Beckwith. I also met my partner Andrew who has been a very important person in my life this year. He has been so fantastic at loving me whilst allowing me to focus on my business. Supporting and listening to me when I’ve been unsure of my challenging leaps, reassuring me and putting up with me when I’ve been a bit stressy! Both my daughters have supported me at home and in my business, Becky has attended every Fab Friends meeting this year – which has been so helpful to me and a great learning for her!

It certainly has been a year of huge leaps of faith, some big shifts in my thinking and most of all walking my talk.

I’ve learned that it’s so important to surround myself with a supportive peer group who encourage me to be the best I can be – to be authentic, to believe in myself, to ask for help, not to compare myself with others, keep on my path and not be persuaded off it or distracted by the ‘rocks’ in the road. And above all to feel happy Hanging in there, keeping motivated – believing in myself and my ‘gifts’ has really changed my circumstances enormously, the snowball is rolling and I’m in such a different place to where I began the year. I start 2012 full of excitement and can’t wait to allow it all to unfold, surprise and delight me.

I would love to hear about your year, what you’ve faced and overcome. What learnings you’ve taken and of the joys and delights that have been the icing on the cake for you! And if you’d like some support to make your 2012 your best year ever, send me an email ali@alisoleil.com and we can have an informal chat to see how we can work together and make that happen, it will be my privilege.

Have a great New Year!

Love and celebrations

Ali xxx

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Dec

Take Your Relationships To The Next Level In 2012 – One Day Workshop

Posted in Articles, gratitude, happiness, Life Challenges, Perfect Days, Personal Development.

As you know, I’m the founder of Fab Friends Network a self development group for women just like you. In November, I was delighted to introduce the very gorgeous Diane MacDowall as our speaker. Di is an insightful and sparkling relationship coach – not only the relationship you share with your partner, but the relationship you have with yourself. Our morning was full of aha moments and top tips – and for me, quite life changing. There was so much interest that Diane and her partner Andy Nicholson are going to be running one day workshop – which I know will be off the scale! Want to know more… keep reading

Relationship Dynamics and Understanding the Male Mind
A One Day Workshop for Women

With Andy Nicholson and Diane MacDowall
Sunday 8th January 2012
9.30am – 4.30pm
Rose and Crown Hotel, Saunderton, near High Wycombe

Being run in conjunction with Ali Soleil of Fab Friends Network

This is a one day workshop for women about relationship dynamics, polarity, masculine and feminine energy and how to understand and communicate effectively with men.

You will discover how to handle your man in a way that melts his heart, and you don’t have to be in a relationship to experience the incredible benefits of this. If you’re currently single, this philosophy will apply to the very next man you date. This is not about controlling or manipulating men, instead, it’s about handling them in a way they adore… there’s a world of difference. One attracts and the other repels.

You will gain insights into how men operate; how they think, communicate and love, and what they need from a relationship. You will discover how to step into his mind when you speak with him, and communicate in ways that will move him.

A man loves doing things for the lady in his life; this is part of his nature – he is a solution finder. However, there is an art in knowing how to ask, receive and appreciate. Every man has a positive and negative side, just as every woman does, yet women often expect the best from their man without realising the immense part they play how he shows up.

Andy will explain the male perspective; what it means to be a man, how men love to be communicated with, flirted with, handled, and even how best to communicate when anger needs to be released so that they actually listen, rather than disappearing into their cave. He will be happy to answer any questions you may have on the day.

The insights and tools provided on this course will broaden your awareness immensely, helping you understand how you create the relationships around you. You will understand why feminine vulnerability is so attractive when it comes from a place of courage, rather than fear or shame… and why truly ‘vulnerable’ is something a woman can only become when she is at her most loving and strong.

We will share remarkable insights into the dynamics of intimate relationships, including how powerful perception and projection are in your relationships with your partner, family, friends and children. A woman has immense power to positively change the energy in all these relationships.

This workshop will be interactive, intensive, insightful, fun, challenging and supportive. It will be extremely enlightening, offering comprehensive and life-long tools to help you embrace a new and expansive perception on life, men and relationships.

Feedback from previous attendees:

“An excellent day. I learnt so much about myself and others and would highly recommend it!.”

“Although not in a relationship, I can now see why previous ones have failed. I feel ‘armed and ready’ to go into the next one. Learnt a great deal about myself – who I am and who I want to be with. It is good to see a couple like Di and Andy who don’t just ‘talk the talk’ but ‘walk ther walk’ too! A fantastic day!”

”Di and Andy are a hope and inspiration to all! Love is out there but it is a case of being more aware of the choices you make. I found out so much about myself and my past experiences that it has helped me to see where I am going and where I want to be. One of the most important lessons from today – Love yourself first!! A totally awesome day from start to finish. I feel that I have grown emotionally so much and started a journey to a better life full of meaningful relationships.”

“Highly recommended!! 15/10″

The price of the full day workshop is £87

Lunch will not be provided on the day, so we suggest that you bring along a packed lunch or purchase lunch at the Rose and Crown, Wycombe Road, Saunderton, near High Wycombe HP27 9NP. Refreshments and a full workbook will be provided.

To book your place please go directly to Diane MacDowall’s webpage

http://www.dianemacdowall.com/relationship-dynamics-and-understanding-the-male-mind

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Dec

Let’s Set Your 2012 Intentions!

Posted in Articles, Christmas, Goal Setting, gratitude, happiness, Perfect Days, Personal Development.

Here we are almost at the start of 2012 – the beginning of a new year of success, adventure and possibility!

Many people begin to plan in January for their year ahead – holidays, new car, new home and house extensions and I wonder how many people give the same amount of time to planning their life?

Looking at glossy holiday brochures is wonderful, you can escape the cold and rain and imagine being on a beach for a week or two, feeling free and relaxed but I wonder if you ever spend time the same amount of time or more imagining your life and really planning what you want to achieve, how you want to grow as a person. Life is a journey – do you want to be the driver or the passenger? Do you want to choose an interesting, scenic and exciting route or leave it to chance and have a snooze in the back?

Often we make short term plans – fun interruptions in our lives; we dot in the holidays and the things that give us excitement or something to look forward to – but how would it be if we made a decision to plan a bit further ahead? Rather than life developing and us existing, we can choose to make things happen the way we design them instead of leaving it all up to chance?

This is your life. You want the best for your family and friends – why not for yourself?

How to set your Intentions and Personal Promises for 2012

1^st Step

Choose a time when you are feeling peaceful, relaxed. Free of interruption. Get yourself in a positive state, open to possibilities. Write a list of things of what you are proud to have achieved during 2011. List them down and quietly reflect on them. Feel the feelings of achievement bubbling up and allow yourself to celebrate every success, big or small!

2^nd Step

What did you do during 2011 that was the ‘icing on the cake?’ Make a list. What gave you your greatest sense of joy? Who was there? What happened? How did it make you feel? What photographs do you treasure of those moments? Go and have a look at them… and relive the feelings, sounds and sights…

3^rd Step

Think about the areas in your life that are important – list them down eg career, environment, personal development, fun & recreation, relationship with friends/family, significant other, spirituality etc. Consider where you are with each right now, today. Give each one a score out of 10, with 1 being low and 10 being high. How would you score your satisfaction with each area?

4^th Step

Think about how you would like to change each area – what would make it a 10? What would ‘10’ be like for you? How would it feel? Close your eyes if it helps… imagine, dream… design… paint a picture in your imagination of how you’re choose to change things. Imagine if Aladdin’s genie gave you 3 wishes… how would you use them to change your life? What if you had more than 3 wishes, how would you use them? Drift into your imagination, what can you hear, what can you smell, taste? Who is there? What are they doing? How bright is the picture? Turn up the colour… adjust the volume so it’s right. What difference would it make to your life? How would it affect your relationships?

5^th Step

Put the list in an order of priority. Which area of your life needs action most urgently? When would you like to have this achieved by? Set dates for the other areas, being realistic – but being true to you.

6^th Step

What is the first step to achieving your intentions and personal promises? Who can help you? What resources do you need? Where can you get these? What additional learning do you need? Where can you find out about this? When are you going to begin? How important is this intention?

7^th Step

Why are you doing this? What is motivating you? If you do not have a big enough reason ‘why,’ you will find yourself falling off the wagon… like many new year resolutions people make, it will be overlooked and your life will be left to chance once more. How do you want to feel when you look back in 10 years and remember the dreams you once had, that you didn’t ‘bother’ to achieve? Decide how important this is to you, your family – choose to make it a priority in your life.

8^th Step

Who will you share your intentions with? Be careful here. I have found that if we are too free with our excitement about how we’re designing our lives – others do not always support us and try to prick our bubble. Sometimes, friends and family like life to be the way it is and that’s that. They do not want anything to change. It can be that they do not want to see us start something and then fail. If they love us they will want to protect us. Others may think it’s best for us to take a more conventional route or do things the way they did. Each person is a unique individual with their own set of life situations and challenges. If we listen to and take on board negative comments of others, we’re bound to struggle to achieve our intentions. We must have belief in ourselves, determination and adopt a success strategy that works for us. We must be clear about why we’re doing this and what the outcome will be. Share your intentions with people who will support you, encourage you and be inspired by you. Keep focusing on the ‘why’ and the positive outcome. Deciding to have a coach can be crucial to your success – a coach will keep you on track, will believe in you and will encourage you to dig deep to find the solutions to your action steps. It is a powerful union.

9^th Step

What will you do to remind yourself daily of your intentions and your commitment to yourself? Some clients of mine choose to write themselves a statement which they keep in their wallet or handbag which they look at each day. It could be something such as:

“It is 3^rd January 2013 and I am sitting on my porch of my dream French house with my loving partner, watching the sun setting over the mountains. We are sipping champagne and planning our next holiday together. We feel healthy, safe and secure. I live in abundance of all good things and my life is perfect.”

It is important that this statement is personal, set in the future with a date and conjures up the feeling you will have once you are living the life you’ve designed.

Some of my clients choose to design a ‘dream board’ which is board covered with cut out pictures of how their life is going to be, what they will have, what they will be doing or what’s important to them. Also words that inspire them to dream big and take action. They will look at the board every morning and every night – looking at the pictures and choose to imagine the feelings of having those things now. This is an incredibly powerful way of speeding up the intention process – ideas will come to you during the night as your mind continues to dream while you’re asleep – you will wake up often with new ideas of how you will make this intention your reality.

10^th Step

Each month, ideally on the first week day or weekend look at your intention list. Look at what you’ve achieved. Praise yourself and celebrate. Feel good about how you’ve moved forward. The changes you can see now, the way this makes you feel. How your positive actions are affecting your state of mind. Decided what the next step will be to getting to your intention. What you need to do, who you need to speak to and put a date on the action – when will this be achieved by?

Intention/Personal Promise Summary

Okay, so imagine… In ten years time, how would you like to be living? If you were to look back at this decade what would you like to be able to say you’d achieved, ticked off your dream list or experienced? You’ll be ten years older… go on, you can do the maths. I heard something recently that really got me thinking – he said, imagine you’re about to meet your maker – you’re standing at the gates of heaven and the angel says to you “Wow, I’ve heard about the Great Wall of China, the pyramids of Egypt, Hanging Gardens of Babylon, Stonehenge, Grand Canyon! Wow what are they like?” and you turn to him and say “Oh I don’t know, I never went there… but I can tell you what happened on EastEnders last week!”

Let’s make 2012 not just a New Year but a Fantastic New Year! A year where you make some positive shifts, feel fulfilled, and achieve the success (whatever that means to you) that you’ve always wanted.

I will have only one new opening for a new one to one mentoring/coaching client in January 2012l Are you feeling ready to take some massive action and make 2012 your BEST year so far? Send me an email to ali@alisoleil.com and let’s have an informal chat about how you can have your best year yet!

Wishing you a very very Happy New Year!

Love and smiles

Ali xxx

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