How would you describe your relationship with money? If you were to think about it, is money your friend or your evil enemy?
Some of us do not have a good association with money and struggle to make it. When we do have money – we don’t hold on it for long. Some of us can’t get enough of it – we know how we are going to spend it and have a never ending supply. Which are you? What causes these extremes?
It’s our psychology that affects this relationship – and often it’s a belief we’ve inherited from our parents from a young age – their beliefs around money can become ours.
When I coach ladies who are not having a good experience with money, I often discover that they do not feel they deserve to have it and it slips through their fingers very quickly. I dig a bit deeper and they discover they don’t actually like money very much.
Some of them been brought up by parents who have said things like ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘people with money have ripped others off’, ‘the bank manger is God’, ‘money corrupts’, ‘money is evil or dirty’. As they explore they realise these beliefs have been holding them back and what they have been costing them! If you’re unconsciously pushing it away – how can you attract it at the same time? This is where I support them to make the decision to believe something more empowering – and certainly improve their relationship with money.
I also work with women who are selling a service or a product they have created themselves, who feel uncomfortable about charging. They find it hard to receive payment for something they love doing.
I believe we all deserve to get paid for what we do. To feel proud of our achievements and get paid a fair price for giving of our skills and experience. I am sure that Madonna has more money than she could ever spend – and yet she still charges top dollar for doing what she loves – because then we value it.
What is your relationship with money? Could you do with some support to change your negative beliefs? When will be a good time to do that – now or later? What are your beliefs costing you? If you had more money, how would you choose to spend it? What changes would you make to your lifestyle? Do let me know – comment or email me ali@daringdamsels.com
Wishing you an abundance of all good things!
Ali xxx